The cosmos are, undeniably, full of mysteries. And among those mysteries is the question of Aquarius-Virgo compatibility. Like water and oil (or, in this case, earth and air), these two aren’t necessarily made to mix. Even the experts struggle to know what will happen with this pairing.
“Virgo and Aquarius — this is a wildcard,” says astrologer Valerie Mesa. Whether you’re speaking about a Virgo man and Aquarius woman, an Aquarius man and Virgo woman, or a pairing of any genders, it’s hard to say how these signs will get on in a romantic relationship.
At worst, they’re ill-fated — but at best, they’re delightfully unpredictable. “When looking at the basic compatibility of Virgo and Aquarius, I see two completely different energies,” says Mesa. “Virgo has a plan that's equally efficient as it is productive, and Aquarius goes wherever the wind takes them.”
So where, exactly, is the wind likely to take an Aquarian if they’ve got their eye on a Virgo? Will Virgo struggle to find the flexibility it takes to truly fall for Aquarius? And what might this mash-up of energies look like in a real-life Virgo-Aquarius relationship? Here are the different ways this “wildcard” pairing matches up in terms of compatibility — for better or worse — given these signs’ similarities and (many, many) differences.
Virgo & Aquarius Emotional Compatibility
They’re An Off-Beat Pairing
In many ways, Aquarius and Virgo couldn’t be more opposite, but that doesn’t mean they’re doomed as a couple. “Virgo and Aquarius are both very different signs, and their synergy is a little bit off but may work as a relationship,” astrologer and psychic Stina Garbis tells Elite Daily. “Aquarius is very easy to get along with but may frustrate Virgo, who tends to be more straightforward than their Aquarian counterpart. Aquarius likes to think outside of the box and Virgo lives inside the box, and their differences may drive each other a little batty.”
Some people love that push and pull in a relationship. Plus, if Virgo and Aquarius have anything going for them, it’s that they have a lot to discuss. “Virgo and Aquarius form an in-conjunction in astrology, meaning five signs apart might not have that much in common,” Lisa Kiss, an astrologer, guide, and teacher, tells Elite Daily. “A Virgo, however, is the most air-like earth sign, as the planet Mercury rules it. Aquarius is an air sign, so they might actually have a lot to talk about and have very long conversations. But, they would most likely stay very intellectual and practical. This pairing might discover they are better in a friendship.” Put these approaches together and you may end up with an Aquarius and Virgo who accidentally slip into the friend zone, rather than developing a flirtatious connection or relationship.
They’re Well-Matched Intellectually
When it comes to things like date nights and dinner plans, Virgos and Aquarians aren’t likely to be on the same page (like, ever). But if you’re looking for a bit of witty repartee, this pairing is sure to deliver. Virgos are known for being hard-working and detail-oriented, while Aquarians’ head-in-the-clouds mentality makes them philosophical and cerebral, and that combo works for both parties. “Virgo’s fussiness and attention to detail is an unconventional turn-on for Aquarius, despite their differences,” says Mesa. “The same way Virgo admires Aquarius's brilliant mind.”
They’re Both A Bit Emotionally Distant
Even if that opposites-attract spark is there, this pair may have trouble connecting on a deeper level. “Emotionally, both Virgo and Aquarius are a little checked out,” Garbis says. “Virgo likes to love like a mother does, except with tough love instead of ‘ooey-gooey’ love. Aquarius is an excellent friend and confidant, but has problems attaching to other people and opening up with their feelings. Aquarius likes to keep things on a friendly level, and it takes a lot for them to commit.”
As Kiss explains, both Aquarius and Virgo tend to be over-thinkers. “They both might have trouble sharing their feelings and getting emotionally vulnerable with each other,” Kiss says. “This might be good as they will stay on the [same] level, but they might not be able to go deep enough to work as a romantic long-term partnership unless one or both is willing to tap into their feelings more.”
Still, that emotional distance could work in their favor, too, keeping things from getting overly heavy. “The fact that both of these signs are a little distant emotionally could be all right because that’s not threatening,” says Garbis. “But once Virgo latches on, they tend to nitpick their lover and that just might not work out with an Aquarius, who hates being controlled and tethered.”
Virgo May Struggle To Rely On Aquarius (And Vice Versa)
Virgos are earth signs, meaning they’re grounded and appreciate stability. Aquarians, however, are air signs, with floaty dispositions and a tendency to have their head in the clouds. “Aquarians are detached, unpredictable, [and] experimental,” says Mesa. “Sure, Virgo wants to test things out if that means it brings results” — e.g. for the sake of optimization and efficiency — “but they can't necessarily ‘rely’ on Aquarius.”
Virgos like set routines, pre-made plans, and standing orders. But Aquarians? They’re fiercely independent and love to try new things, which is where this duo might clash. If and when Aquarians suggest booking a table at that new tapas bar (or even mixing things up in the bedroom), they might be let down by Virgos’ hesitation to break from the norm. “The fixed energy of an Aquarius and the mutable energy of a Virgo is where you could see conflict or issues arise,” Kiss says. “Aquarians aren’t a fan of too much change, while Virgo will want to change if they see something that could be more efficient. Getting an Aquarius on board to make a change might be hard as they can be described as stubborn.”
Virgo & Aquarius Sexual Compatibility
There’s a chance Virgo and Aquarius’ mental connection and penchant for banter will take them to new heights in the bedroom. “This is, again, an interesting pair,” says Mesa. “If anything, I think mind sex is a thing for Virgo and Aquarius — lots of dirty talk [and] flirting, perhaps.”
On the sex front, Virgo and Aquarius actually share similar tendencies, and they might enjoy each other’s company a lot. “Both Virgo and Aquarius can be a little bizarre in bed,” says Garbis. “What makes them tick is different from the rest of the zodiac. They both can be very kinky and may get off on that if they are willing to let each other in on their dirty little secrets.”
Both of these signs might enjoy pushing boundaries and wanting to try different things in the bedroom, according to Kiss. “Aquarius just likes to do things differently, so they might have a thing or two they want to try,” she says. “And even though Virgo is known as the sign of the Virgin and can be seen as pure, that doesn’t mean they don’t want to try new things and experiment. They are a mutable sign, and that can apply to all areas of their life.”
Enjoying kink, especially, might be a shared trait when it comes to pleasure. “A sexual affair between Virgo and Aquarius could look like voyeurism, threesomes, sex in public, and the like,” Garbis says. “Virgo, while being a very private person, has a desire to be caught in bed. They like the idea of being caught being naughty. Aquarius is more open and free and doesn’t care who sees them exposed sexually, but is down for a little Virgo kink.”
Of course, there’s always a risk that the sometimes-aloof Aquarius may not be up to the task, according to Mesa. “I don't see it following [through] on Aquarius' end,” she says. These signs may have to get creative to figure out ways to merge their interests in bed.
Virgo & Aquarius Communication Style
Virgo and Aquarius are both excellent communicators, as Garbis explains — they both know how to get their ideas across to people. That being said, they do so in incredibly antithetical ways. “Virgo is more organized than Aquarius, and this may come out in their conversations with one another,” Garbis says. “Where Virgo likes to get to the point, Aquarius generally dances around an idea and gets to their point eventually.”
They’re basically stark opposites when it comes to communication styles, which can certainly lead to headaches on both sides. “Their differences may frustrate each other,” Garbis says. “Aquarius wants a Virgo to loosen up their ideas and think bigger, while Virgo wants Aquarius to shape up and get their ideas straight without all the fluff.”
Overall, from a cursory look, Virgo and Aquarius seem to be a tricky pairing, but that doesn’t mean it never happens. As ever, it’s important to consider a person’s entire chart (and entire personality!) before drawing conclusions about how well you’ll mesh in a relationship. In Mesa’s words, “We can't disregard the rest of their chart, you know?”
Valerie Mesa, astrologer
Stina Garbis, astrologer and psychic
Lisa Kiss, astrologer, guide, and teacher
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