In general, "butt stuff" comprises a murky area of sex that some straight and straight-passing couples are mystified and enchanted by. Within that "butt stuff" umbrella, pegging has both a lot of stigma and curiosity attached to it. If you're a vagina-owner who's been wondering how to peg someone for the first time, know this: There are a lot of moving parts (literally) when it comes to the physical and emotional success of this back-door operation. Pegging, by definition, is the "the sexual act of a women anally penetrating a man with the use of a dildo or strap-on," according to sexologist and reproductive justice activist Michelle Hope.
Anal penetration can also come in the form of fingering, using a vibrator, and using your tongue on the anus, aka rimming. In general, those who like butt stuff say it feels "dirty, in a sexy way" and "hot." Pegging can feel good for men and people assigned male at birth, Hope says, because there are "a lot of nerve endings in the anus or rectum." It also feels lovely because of "prostate stimulation, which can cause orgasm and ejaculation."
Still, pegging isn't just pleasurable for the person getting pegged. It can give the person doing the pegging pleasure, too. Typically, women and femmes are the receiving partner in heterosexual sex. The chance that pegging offers women to penetrate and even dominate in bed, too? That can be super empowering and super sexy. That alone is worth a shot. Here is everything you need to know about pegging your partner for the first time.