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A Full Debrief On Taylor Swift’s Dating History

Sans the sexist narrative.

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Taylor Swift has gotten a lot — like, a lot — of attention for her dating life, and much of it has painted her in an unfairly negative light. Ever since her and Joe Alwyn’s six-year relationship ended, the conversation surrounding her dating history has been back in the headlines — though this time, it’s finally not as problematic.

Swift has openly spoken out against narratives claiming she dates a lot of people. After Netflix’s Ginny & Georgia made a quip at her expense (“What do you care? You go through men faster than Taylor Swift”), the singer commented on the sitch. “Hey Ginny & Georgia, 2010 called and it wants its lazy, deeply sexist joke back,” she tweeted in March 2021. “How about we stop degrading hard working women by defining this horse sh*t as FuNnY.” She’s got a point.

Fortunately, it seems like that misogynistic narrative about Swift’s dating history is in the past. On Oct. 14, Saturday Night Live did a skit about Swift — specifically, the way she’s taken over the NFL since going public with Chiefs tight end Travis Kelce — and they managed to quip about her exes *without* any sexism. “I’m just glad it’s not Matty Healy,” one cast member joked, relieved to find her dating Kelce. Another referenced Swift’s song inspo: “‘Karma’s not about Joe. Are you insane? Not everything has to be about Joe.”

The non-insulting jokes were a breath of fresh air (and well-timed, considering Swift was in the audience). But for anyone who still is buying into the idea that Swift has a “long list of ex-lovers,” let’s break down her actual dating history (starting with her most recent ‘ship), sans the exaggerations.

Travis Kelce

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Romance rumors surrounding Swift and Kelce began in September, a few months after the NFL player revealed his crush on the singer. Apparently, he tried to give her his number at the Eras Tour (he put it on a friendship bracelet for her!), but they didn’t end up meeting since Swift was on vocal rest pre- and post-show.

Following his public declaration, Swift began appearing at Kelce’s games, sitting with his mom Donna Kelce while cheering on her beau. Afterwards, Kelce gushed about Swift on his New Heights podcast. “I just thought it was awesome that everybody in the suite had nothing but great things to say about her. The friends and family. She looked amazing,” he said, per Us Weekly. “I sure as hell enjoyed this weekend.”

The rumors all culminated in two October date nights, when Swift and Kelce were photographed engaging in some sweet PDA in New York City. Fans noticed that Kelce even moved Swift’s security out of the way so he could be the one to help her out of the car and escort her to Nobu, a popular celeb restaurant.

Explaining the gesture on his podcast on Oct. 18, Kelce said, per Entertainment Tonight, “I feel like whenever I'm on a date, I'm always having the sense that I'm a man in the situation. I'm protective, yeah, for sure.”

Matty Healy

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Swift reportedly had a brief fling with The 1975 frontman Matty Healy after her breakup with Joe Alwyn. Rumors of their romance first bubbled up at the beginning of May 2023, when Healy showed up at one of Swift’s Eras Tour shows amid reports they’d become more than friends. The relationship only last about a month, though, as they reportedly called it quits in the beginning of June.

Joe Alwyn

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After meeting at the Met Gala in 2016, Swift and Alwyn dated for six years before reportedly breaking up in April 2023. Throughout the course of their relationship, the couple kept a pretty low profile, though they did write a few songs together on Swift’s albums Folklore, Evermore, and Midnights. They reportedly called it quits because Alwyn “struggled” with Swift’s fame. A source told People, “The differences in their personalities have also become harder to ignore after years together. They’ve grown apart.”

Tom Hiddleston

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Swift dated Hiddleston for a couple of months in 2016. (They attended the Met Gala together that May.) Hiddleston was famously spotted at Swift’s 2016 Fourth of July party, sporting an "I love T.S." shirt. So, it looked pretty serious, even if it was short-lived.

Calvin Harris

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Swift and Harris were together for 15 months. Following their breakup in June 2016, there was some drama when Swift took credit for helping write “This Is What You Came For,” Harris’ song featuring Rihanna. On Twitter, Harris lashed out at Swift. “I wrote the music, produced the song, arranged it and cut the vocals though. And initially she wanted it kept secret, hence the pseudonym. Hurtful to me at this point that her and her team would go so far out of their way to try and make ME look bad at this stage though,” he wrote. Later, he tweeted, “I figure if you're happy in your new relationship you should focus on that instead of trying to tear your ex bf down for something to do. I know you're off tour and you need someone new to try and bury like Katy [Perry] ETC but I'm not that guy, sorry. I won't allow it.”

Harry Styles

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Styles and Swift dated from October 2012 to January 2013, and to this day, fans of the duo call themselves “children of divorce.” The relationship gave Swifties plenty of 1989 gems like “Style” and “Out Of The Woods.” Although there was some drama post-breakup, like Swift mocking Styles’ British accent during her 2013 Grammys performance of “We Are Never Getting Back Together,” they’ve reconciled since then. At the 2023 Grammys, the duo was spotted hugging.

Conor Kennedy

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Kennedy and Swift’s relationship didn't last long, and not much is known about it. The couple dated for a few months in 2012, but went their separate ways because of “distance,” per an Us Weekly source.

Jake Gyllenhaal

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Swift dated Gyllenhaal for a few months in 2010 and 2011. While neither confirmed the romance, the song “All Too Well” is believed to be inspired by him. In it, Swift does not hold back: “You said if we had been closer in age maybe it would have been fine / And that made me want to die.” (Gyllenhaal is nine years older than Swift.)

John Mayer

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The duo was first linked in 2009, after collaborating on Mayer’s song “Half Of My Heart.” (At the time, Swift was 19 and Mayer was 32.) In 2010, Swift released the song “Dear John,” which everyone (including Mayer) thinks is about this relationship.

In 2012, Mayer complained about the song to Rolling Stone, explaining that he was “really humiliated” by it. “I will say as a songwriter that I think it’s kind of cheap songwriting... I think it’s abusing your talent to rub your hands together and go, ‘Wait till he gets a load of this!’ That’s bullsh*t,” he said. (Swifties think “Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve” is also about this romance, since she referenced being 19 in the lyrics.)

Taylor Lautner

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Swift and Lautner’s relationship was an easy one to root for. The duo dated in 2009, and Swift dedicated her song “Back to December” to him. In 2016, while promoting Scream Queens, Lautner fielded some questions about Swift. “It was a good time. It was a fun few months there,” he said. Later, when asked if she wrote a song about him, he told co-stars Lea Michelle and John Stamos, "That's what she does. She writes songs... It's called 'Back to December.'"

Lucas Till

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Swift and Till dated briefly in 2009 after he starred in her “You Belong With Me” music video. Following their breakup, Till told MTV, "We dated for a little bit. But, there was no friction because we were too nice... We just really both liked each other… [but] most relationships work out cause you get along and then you don't, and then you make up and it’s passionate, and with us I really just liked her as a friend. That’s the only reason that didn't work out."

Joe Jonas

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Swift’s first public relationship was with Jonas in 2008. It famously ended when Jonas broke up with Swift over a 27-second phone call. Though they ultimately might not have been the best match, Swift was inspired by their romance to write “Forever & Always” and “Mr. Perfectly Fine.”

Fifteen years later, Swift and Jonas appear to be on good terms (maybe). Swift seemingly sent him and Sophie Turner a baby gift in 2020 — though she has since been spotted out several times with Turner since the Game of Thrones star announced her divorce from Jonas in September.

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