8 Texts To Send After A Great First Date To Help You Land A Second

Pssst… You don’t have to wait for them to text you first.

When you first enter the dating world, figuring out your own personal way of approaching it can definitely take a bit of trial and error. But once you're really ready to date for the purpose of finding someone to be have fun or be serious with, keeping some solid texts in your arsenal to let a good date know you'd definitely be down for round two isn't a bad idea. It's easy to over-analyze what texts to send after a great first date, especially when you walk away from the night feeling super smitten. And it can be tempting to pretend like you’re not as interested as you really are in order to play hard to get. But what’s the point of hiding behind the façade of not really caring? So go ahead and text after a first date if doing so feels right to you.

While playing hard to get is definitely a strategy some people swear by, transparency can be refreshing when you’re meeting someone new. If your date was into you, they’ll be pumped to know you want to see them again, and if they weren’t, you'll probably be able to suss that out much sooner by being honest about your feelings. So, texting after a first date can be a great way to find out where someone stands.

But when, exactly, is the best time to text someone after a great first date? While there are no hard-and-fast rules, consider waiting until the next morning. Assuming you both had a good time, allowing a night for processing can give you both the chance to get amped up. Letting them question if things went as well as they thought, followed by positive reinforcement the next morning, shows you're interested but not overly eager. But if your date sends you a cute goodnight text, don’t hesitate to respond when you receive it.

As for what to text after a first date, if you don't hear from them first, here are eight ideas that’ll let your date know you're definitely interested in seeing where things could go.

Suggest Doing Something Together That Came Up In Conversation
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A great way to segue into the possibility of a second date without actually asking them out is to follow up on something they said from the night before. If they raved about this amazing pancake place they frequent, then saying something like, "I had a great time last night! We should do it again sometime, maybe over some [insert pancake emoji]," could do the trick.

Or if they mentioned an event that's coming up, like an art fair or gallery opening, you can easily swoop in and let them know you'd be down to go together. Try, "Last night was super fun, definitely think I'm gonna try to see [fill in the blank]. Maybe we can double-team it :)"

Comment On Something Positive About The First Date

Another solid approach to letting a date know you want to see them again is to reference something you found particularly special about the night. Something like, "I had a really great time with you last night. That tequila bar was lit!" is a sweet way to start a conversation.

Even if you just comment on the place where you ate, calling attention to something specific you thought was cool lets them know you genuinely enjoyed yourself. This should ease any doubts they might have and let them know they have the green light to ask you out again.

Make It Clear You'd Like To Meet Up Again

If you're feeling bold and want to make your intentions known, flat-out telling them you'd like to meet up again leaves no guesswork to be done on their end. "Last night was a lot of fun! We should totally do it again sometime," followed by a cute emoji cluster, is a solid choice. It's short, to the point, and still gives them the opportunity to take the lead in solidifying plans for a second outing.

Boost Their Ego

Giving your date a compliment, especially a flirty one, is never a bad idea. If something about them really stood out to you, then let them know. If the conversation was particularly stimulating, you could text them something like, "Last night was awesome! I'm a sucker for someone who can keep me on my toes," or even, "You really showed me a good time last night, I'm definitely looking forward to round two :)"

Ask Them Out On A Second Date

Putting yourself out there by asking them out might make you feel a little bit nervous since it requires vulnerability on your part. But you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. If you like them and want to see them again, you don't have to wait around for them to ask you. Take initiative and ask for what you want. Your message can be something as simple and straightforward as: “I had a great time last night. I’d love to do it again soon. Are you free for [date activity] on Friday?”

Suggest A Follow-Up To A Fun Conversation You Had On Your Date

If the date was great, chances are the conversation flowed naturally and you found some common interests. One way to open the door to a second date is by picking up a conversation you’d like to continue. Send them something like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about what you said about [topic] — that was so interesting! I’d love to get together and hear more about it. Are you free Friday night?”

Share A Link To Something Happening They’d Be Into

On your first date, you probably learned about a few things they're into and hopefully found some common ground. So, if you happen to “learn” (read: heavily research) an event you'd both be into is coming up, it's a great opportunity to shoot them a text to let them know while also dropping some not-so-subtle hints you’d like to attend together. Say something along the lines of, “Hey, did you see this? Since we both like [band, activity, hobby, etc.] maybe we should check it out!”

Thank Them And Let Them Know When You're Free

Sometimes, all you need to do is thank your date, let them know when you'd be free to meet up again, and see where they stand. Try texting them something like, "Thank you for last night, I had a really great time. This coming week is a little busy, but I'm free Friday night if you’re down to hang again."

While obsessing over how to move from a successful first date to a second date can feel unavoidable, sometimes it’s helpful to remind yourself not to get too caught up in playing it cool. Texting can already feel a bit cold and distant as is. After all, it takes some serious confidence to be vulnerable and put yourself out there — and that confidence can be so sexy.