Shaun B.

Everything I Wish I Could Say To The Girl I Benched For Years

By Shaun B.
I'm too old for this. My life has turned into one big Bryson Tiller song. Whatever. I can't say I don't deserve it. A while back, I wrote an article about the girl I "benched." The one I took for granted. She was probably the girl I should have been…

8 Signs You're Over Being A Player, Even If You Haven't Realized It

By Shaun B.
Women aren't the only ones who have grown up believing in fairytales. Many men are going through life buying into fairytales they've been sold since a young age. We believe in a life of unrelenting bachelorhood. We're stuck in our player ways until…

10 Signs The Girl You're Chasing Just Isn't That Into You, As Told By A Man

By Shaun B.
“There's nothing like the thrill of the chase.” – men everywhere But at what point do we realize our pursuit really just might be a wild goose chase? It should be obvious. But many men go through life shamelessly wasting their energy on a female who…

6 Things Your BF Does That Seem 'Crazy,' But Mean He's In Love With You

By Shaun B.
Back in 2014, one of my favorite musicians of all time, TI, was involved in a heavily publicized brawl with the UNDEFEATED, undisputed middleweight boxing champion of the world, Floyd Mayweather. The multi-platinum selling rapper didn't hesitate to…

Why I'm Not A Fuckboy If I Tinder In A Foreign Country

By Shaun B.
Travel is all the rage right now among our generation, and and rightfully so. Most people can't tell you the name of the capital of Thailand, but their Instagram feed has them dying to go to Phuket. I'm all for this: Travel is an absolutely critical…

5 Reasons Men Put Women In The Friend Zone, As Told By A Guy

By Shaun B.
The friend zone isn't a place exclusively reserved for the male species. Women can be placed into that dreaded sunken place, just as men can be. In fact, I would argue that this often damages the female ego more than it does the male ego. Because…

This Is What Men Really Think About Sex On The First Date, As Told By A Guy

By Shaun B.
We're adults: It should be as simple as that. However, a stigma continues to surround the idea of women giving up the goodies after just one night (or day) of personal contact. Young ladies everywhere fear judgement, and they second-guess both…

How I Recognized The Double Standard I Had Against Women About Cheating

By Shaun B.
There she was sitting right in front of me; the girl I had been mesmerized and awestruck over and diligently chasing for weeks was finally on a date with me. She agreed to meet me to have drinks at a restaurant after work. After showing up nearly…

10 Things All Men Eventually Apologize For, No Matter How Nice We Are

By Shaun B.
Sometimes, as men, we get in over our heads whenever we choose a lady in an attempt to get serious. We will go into something with the best of intentions, but circumstances may force things to become a little tricky. Many of us are wrapped up in our…

I Dated A Single Mom And Fell In Love With Her Child But Not Her

By Shaun B.
If you're dating in your late 20s or early 30s (and not dating people who are way younger than you), you've probably had to think about whether you'd date someone who's also a parent. I've definitely encountered my fair share of single mothers on…

The Simple Concept Men Need To Master In Their 20s To Be Successful.

By Shaun B.
As you navigate through your quarter life crisis, no doubt you will read your fair share of “things you should do in your 20s” or 10 Things you should know before you turn 30” lists. Learn how to tie a tie, start investing, travel the world, jump…

Why The Worst Thing You Can Do In A Relationship Is Call Your SO 'Perfect'

By Shaun B.
My college sweetheart was Superwoman, and you couldn't tell me anything different at that time. You might not have been able to tell by the way I treated her, but it was true in my mind nonetheless. She was the smartest and most stunning human being…

I'm A Black Man And I Refuse To Let A Donald Trump Win Defeat Me

By Shaun B.
It's been about a week since America elected Donald Trump as its President-elect. As I sit inside this eclectic internet cafe in Northwest Washington DC, I feel a sense of normalcy for the first time in the last 48 hours. People seem to be cheerful,…

Why Being In The Friend Zone Doesn't Mean You're Doomed Forever

By Shaun B.
Allow me to set the scene: You've known this one girl for a while, and you're really digging her. You're getting the vibe the feeling's mutual. Sometimes it definitely seems like it, but other times, not so much. Slowly, you begin to realize and…

How Trump's Campaign Could Be The Start To Healing Racial Tension In America

By Shaun B.
Let me be the first to say I have been nothing short of thoroughly entertained, mesmerized and amazed by this show that has been the Trump campaign. One thing I wasn't, however, was surprised. By any of it. Many normal, righteous minded Americans…

'White Knight Syndrome' Is Why You Couldn't Fix Your Ex

By Shaun B.
“Don't save her. She don't wanna be saved.” Rap legend Project Pat first said this infamous phrase close to 20 years ago. And despite repeating it several times when I was a child, this lesson apparently never sank in for me. When J. Cole echoed the…

How Kid Cudi Is Helping Black Men Break The Stigma Around Mental Health

By Shaun B.
A few weeks ago, when musician Kid Cudi announced he'd checked into a rehab facility, I couldn't help but flash a slight grin. It wasn't because I was happy Mr. Rager was going through such difficulty. No, I was happy he had the audacity to be vocal…

Why I'm OK With Being The First To Fall In Love, As Told By A Man

By Shaun B.
Jhené Aiko once said “You give, but you cannot take, love." Though she was probably talking to Drake as she sang the hook on his song “From Time," those lyrics continue to strike a chord with me today. If you've read any of my other articles, you…

I Don't Want To Be A Fuckboy, But I'm Afraid I'll Be One Forever

By Shaun B.
Truth be told, I never really wanted to be a fuckboy. But then again, I haven't always been faithful. Clearly, this is not something I take pride in. I'm not the type to brag about the dirt I've done. It's in the past, and I'm looking forward to the…

Why Men Who Have Had A Sexual 'Dry Spell' Are Better, As Told By A Guy

By Shaun B.
Conventional wisdom says: the more sex you have, the better off you are. Especially if you're a dude. There are also scientific studies that say you're more healthy if you have more sex. Aside from that, society tells us we need to get as much as…