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4 Easy Sex Positions To Start With When You Have No Clue What You're Doing

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Sometimes, I feel a lot of pressure to be an acrobat in bed. What does my partner expect of me? Do I need to be able to do a handstand or swing from the ceiling to be impressive in bed these days? The answer is no. There are easy sex positions to start with if you're feeling timid about getting too wild in the sack.

First off, it's important to acknowledge that sex isn't about impressing other people. You shouldn't go into the bedroom forgetting that you, too, deserve to come. I spent a lot of my 20s forgetting that I am also part of the sexual experience and have the ability to — and should — orgasm. I was so worried about looking hot and pleasing other people that I forgot that I need to be pleased, too.

When I'm trying to be "impressive" in bed, I am usually too stuck in my head to actually enjoy sex. But you know when I actually like sex the most? When it's f*cking boring. I can pretty much always come when I'm engaging in very simplistic sexual positions, so today, I am here to preach that, when it comes to the bedroom, easy is best. So here are four uncomplicated sex positions to try when you have no clue what you're doing. It's like sex for dummies!

1. Missionary

Kylah Benes-Trapp

How to do it:

In the missionary position, typically, you are on the bottom, while the other person penetrates you from on top. To vary the position, you can put your knees toward your chest, wrap your legs around your partner, or (should you be flexible) put your legs on your partner's shoulders.

Why it's good:

Missionary is definitely the best position for your boobs, as they are typically squeezed against your partner's chest, and it makes them look big and supported — great for ample chested gals, whose breasts have a habit of falling into their armpits or hitting them in the face during intercourse. On the orgasm side, missionary sex is beneficial for stimulating your G-spot. To get even better access to it, you can put a pillow under your back for deeper penetration. Additionally, you can masturbate during penetration and stimulate your clitoris for double the pleasure and double the fun.

2. Cowgirl

Kylah Benes-Trapp

How to do it:

In the cowgirl position, the woman gets on top of her partner and rides them. This can be done on a bed, on a couch, or on a chair for extra friction and support.

Why it's good:

Cowgirl is a great position for achieving the mysterious female orgasm because it gives you complete control over your sexual experience. You get to control the rhythm, speed, and depth of penetration, which allows you to better achieve climax. Additionally, your partner has a great view of your breasts and access to your hips and butt — so they're not getting the short end of the stick whatsoever.

3. Doggy Style

Kylah Benes-Trapp

How to do it:

With doggy style, one partner gets on all fours (do this on the bed, so your knees don't hurt), while the other person penetrates from behind.

Why it's good:

Doggy style is great for your partner because they have a great view of your body and butt, which are hot, so why not show them off? Additionally, they have access to your clitoris during intercourse and can stimulate it further with either their hand or a toy during sex to ensure that both of you get off during the act. Doggy style is also great if you don't want to do a lot of work or want your partner to get off quickly, which I find my partners usually do when given this kind of view of your bod.

4. Spooning

Kylah Benes-Trapp

How to do it:

In spooning sex, you are lying on your side, while your partner spoons you from behind. You lift one leg gently in toward your stomach to allow your partner to enter you, and then, you create a rhythm and start thrusting together.

Why it's good:

Spooning sex gives your partner access to both your G-spot and your clitoris, as they can stimulate you with either their hand or a toy while penetrating you from behind. Additionally, they can kiss your neck and rub your breasts — both erogenous zones — for extra pleasure during intercourse.

Crazy sex does not always equal great sex. In fact, when it comes to the bedroom and intimacy, sometimes, less can be more. If you're a beginner in the bedroom, try one of these positions out for size.  There's no shame in liking missionary. Don't let people missionary shame you!

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