Courtney Dercqu

Published writer/author who is tired of every Starbucks barista thinking her name is Britney. I'm on Twitter and Instagram @kort_nay Check me out especially if you like your feed being filled with coffee cups, cats and pictures of cats holding coffee cups.

6 Bridesmaid Tips That Will Keep You From Hating Your Life This Wedding Season

While most people look forward to spring for the sundresses, iced coffees and open-toe sandals, there are some people, like me, freaking out because OH MY GOD IT'S ALMOST WEDDING SEASON! *let's have a moment of silence for my wallet from now until O…
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Why My Divorce At 21 Taught Me All I Needed To Know About Love

I've been married before, and even though I'm just 26 years old, I learned a lot about life and love. See, the love you experience at 18 years old is unsteady. I loved my ex because of his attributes. He was the opposite of me, but what I later reali…
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Women Should Not Be Ignored Once They Get Engaged And Here's Why

I'd like to think I'm of average attractiveness. I'm going work my dad's terrible nose that he passed down to me — and my chipmunk cheeks — in the fiercest way possible. Slay girl, slay! Beyoncé ain't got nothin' on me. Every once in a blue moon, gu…
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4 Questions I Wish I Asked Myself Before I Caught Feelings For My BFF's Ex

Okay, I'm about to admit something that *no* girl ever should. I sort of dated my best friend's ex. We were never really official but there were definitely sparks that flew between us. When we were together, it felt electric. I thought he was cute, a…
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6 Unique Ways To Have Fun On A Budget When You're Broke After The Holidays

I consider myself to be a pretty fantastic gift-giver during the holidays. It's partly due to my having selective hearing throughout the year... and the majority to do with my not giving a crap when it comes to spending. Oh, you want a brand new Xbox…
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5 Things A Retail Worker Wants You To Know Before You Shop

When it came to working retail, there were lots of things I learned that helped me in every other type of job I've had since. For example, my toleration level for having conversations with idiots has skyrocketed. Just kidding. While retail may seem …
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I Discovered What I Wanted Out Of Life Only After My Marriage Ended

A military relationship is different than an average relationship. Your identity is mainly mirrored through your husband's. You give his last name to enter the base, his social when you want to make a doctor's appointment and even though they may not…
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5 Controlling Habits You Should Never Put Up With In A Relationship

It's my personal opinion that when you have a healthy relationship, you don't bicker about the trivial stuff. Case in point: My friend's ex used to freak out when she posted a picture of herself and one of her male friends on Instagram. Contrary to p…
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5 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself To Find Out Who You Truly Are

We all have dreams, but not all of us can say we spent our lives actually fulfilling them. The majority of the people you went to high school with will end up settling for a decent paying job with good benefits mainly because they enjoy the security …
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Why I'll Never Tell My Daughter The Boys Teasing Her Really Just Like Her

When I was in the third grade, this kid named Dennis knocked my books right out of my hand. While the rest of my classmates laughed and our teacher scolded Dennis for his childish behavior, I went into the bathroom and cried because I was an uber sen…
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6 Things Only A 'Forever' Person Will Do For You

When you're with the right person, love is easy. People say that marriage is hard work and it is, but when the kind of person standing beside you wants to put in as much effort as you, that's what makes a healthy, forever kind of relationship. If you…
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7 Reasons You Should Never Regret Dating The Person Who Broke Your Heart

Heartbreak happens. We date the wrong people, or we're not ready, or they're not ready, or the timing is wrong. We make mistakes. But with the end of every relationship comes the promise of something new -- if you learn something in the process. To m…
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How I Ended Up Meeting My Fiancé On Halloween

I met my current fiancé at my friend's Halloween party two years ago. The best part about this story? Both me and my fiancé were planning on ditching the party that night. I'll admit, I've never been a huge fan of costume parties. I know, horrible ri…
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My Ex Dumped Me By Ghosting Me At Prom, And His Parents Approved Of It

I'm pretty sure all of us reading this right now have been the SO your boyfriend or girlfriend's parents have hated. And if not, just wait. It's a right of passage we all eventually endure. Your SO's family can hate you for a wide range of reasons. M…
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The 5 Worst Things You Can Say To Your Single Friend

I was single for four years. Despite the fact I'm now engaged (ladies, there's hope!), there are one or two things I learned during my long nights alone that still bother me about the stigma of being single. For some reason, society looks at a woman …
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I Stayed In A Loveless Relationship To Prove Love Had Meaning

Love is a fickle bitch. It's so confusing. It can be so overwhelming that it turns people into love-crazed beings who will do literally anything for the sake of adrenaline coursing through their veins. And, love can also be something that loses its m…
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Brad And Angelina Are Divorcing, But I'm Still Not Over Him Dumping Jen

I'm stuck in the early 2000s. Along with my butterfly clips, the fact that it took me way too long to chuck my Aeropostale hoodies and still classifying Britney and Justin's all denim ensembles as perfection, I'm still not over Brad and Jennifer brea…
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9 Questions You And Your Partner Need To Ask Yourselves Before Having Kids

Believe it or not, my fiancé and I have already had the "kids" talk. Mainly, it's because we want to be prepared for when we try to conceive after our wedding (and only a little because we see a baby and melt for the rest of the afternoon). Having th…
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I Ghosted Someone And This Is Why I Don't Regret It

For a brief three-month window, I "dated" this dude named Craig. His name's not really Craig, but I can only assume this is a really Craig-like thing to do. Attention: To anyone reading this named Craig, don't be this guy, OK? Craig is what Vince Vau…
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How My Future Husband Saved Me From My Abusive Past

I almost missed the man who turned out to be the love of my life. Not because of timing but because of my past, mainly my fears and vulnerability of trusting after an abusive relationship. When my current fiancé and I got together, I avoided eye cont…
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