When you think of your typical rituals leading up to a virtual date, what comes to mind? Tidying up your apartment, putting on a cute new outfit, and pouring a glass of rosé for some liquid courage are just a few of the things that might be on your to-do list. The idea with all of these strategies is to feel as self-assured as possible — because whether you know it or not, confidence is sexy AF. Even if a virtual date feels strange, there are expert-backed ways to build confidence before a FaceTime date.
In addition to calming your own nerves, embracing confidence ups your chance of having a successful date. A 2009 study at Wake Forest University, which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, enlisted 4,000 people between the ages of 18 and 70 to rate photos based on attractiveness. The results revealed that a whopping 75% of women and 90% of men favored the people who exuded confidence in their photos. Meanwhile, a 2019 Ipsos survey of more than 18,000 people across 27 countries found that for both men and women, confidence far outranks physical attributes (like facial appearance and body shape) in terms of what makes someone beautiful.
The bottom line? Confidence is something that's well worth working on before a virtual date — not only because doing so will help you to relax and enjoy the experience more, but also because it may help you to put your best foot forward.
"Confidence is important to have for any date much less a virtual date because you can't fall back on touch, which is so important when connecting with someone," explains Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking.
So, before you dial up your date, take a deep breath, hold your head up high, and give these strategies for a whirl.