I feel like there's a joke in here about having your phone on vibrate and using a vibrator, but it's not quite coming. However, after reading these 20 sexts to send your friend with benefits, you might be! If you have a FWB, having an inbox full of flirty and filthy messages can be another benefit of your hookup arrangement. Maybe you like to be playful or bossy while you sext. Perhaps you use your sexy texts as a preview for what's coming later on in the night. Whatever your vibe, sexting your hookup can be totally exciting.
Of course, like all types of sex, sexting requires some IRL conversations before doing the dirty. No one wants to be surprised by an unsolicited "I want to bone you right now" text when they're out getting a manicure with their nana. Consent is the name of the sexting game, and being clear about boundaries and intentions is imperative before hitting send on a sexy message. Additionally, it's important to remember that sexting isn't for everyone. If you're not into exchanging sexy messages, you never need to feel pressure to do so.
Still, if you and your FWB are on the same sexting page, here are 20 messages to send that are way more frisky than friendly.
Stating that you're feeling frisky is a great way to get the sexting ball rolling. If your FWB lives far away, a text like this can be a good opener. If they live in your area, it can be a sexier version of "U up?" and can initiate a sexy hang.
If having phone sex is your vibe or you like to get it on with yourself, expressing to your FWB that you were thinking about them while masturbating can be totally hot.
Were they absolutely delicious last night? If so, let them know. FWB-encounters can be so yummy you feel yourself steaming up all day long.
The visual of you biting your lip is hot, plus it lets them know that they got you so aroused, you need to do something to calm yourself down.
The tongue is an erotic body part, and for good reason. It's where you go to actually taste another person, and what's hotter than that? Besides, specifics about what you'd like to do to them are always sexy.
The idea of turned on, right down to your panties, (or any undergarment you might use, not that you have to use one), could be a huge turn-on. You can adjust this for your genitalia — just let them know there's a lot going on down there.
This tells them exactly where you'd like your bodies. Plus, it may remind them of a steamy encounter you've already had.
When I receive a sext that details the exact position they want me in, I always steam up a bit, and your FWB's phone will too.
Wherever you want your body in relationship to theirs, let them know. This way, they have a clear picture in their head, which is a huge turn-on.
Sexiest TV scene of all time? Check. In a church? Check. Do I think about it when I masturbate? Check. Send it to your FWB — they'll steam up faster than a priest in a confessional.
They're your FWB, right? So, the benefits need to be there, and they are. Tell them you appreciate these benefits so much — nothing will turn them on more.
Clear and to the point! You don't need to specify a specific part, you can want someone with the whole dang bod!
As they say, the best leaders are delegators. Make your boo do all the heavy lifting by asking them what they would want to do to you or with you. This can be a sexy way to learn more about their fantasies and desires, as well as to get them talking dirty.
Keep it simple. If you love when your FWB licks your neck, tell them that. If you want them to nibble on your ear, put it in their inbox.
Expressing how good it feels to have your partner near you can be a super hot way to sext as well. Tell them that you want them and how badly. If you're feeling super spicy, tell them where you want them.
Of course, power play demands a lot of consent and an IRL discussion of boundaries. Still, if you'd like to be the boss, tell your FWB you're going to take the reins.
You can miss a person's lips — it's happened to me many times. Some lips are just so insanely delicious you think about it all day, so tell your FWB theirs fall into that category.
Telling your FWB how much you want to please and tease them can be a super sexy way to message. Sweet, simple, and sultry.
If you like to get rough, sext your crush about hair-pulling or getting pinned down. Again, all sexual activity demands a conversation about consent, and if you're going to get more physical or talk about getting more physical, you'll need some extra conversation before diving in.
If you like it on the softer side, saying you're thinking about them holding you or kissing your face is seductive too.
As any drama teacher will tell you — show, don't tell. Being a little more graphic about the physical things your body is doing can provide a major boost.
Sexting your FWB can be a flirty was to turn up the heat. Even if you've gotten down and dirty before, it can be important to check-in with your date's comfort level before sending some steamy content. But if all your parties are on board, sexting your FWB can be everything from foreplay to the grande finale.
