23 Classic Dating Questions You Should Ask Before Getting In A Relationship
Let me tell you a little secret. Once upon a time, people actually met in real life to date. I know, what an odd and foreign concept...
Dating apps have become the norm among Gen-Yers. Why go outside and meet people when you can just swipe left or right on a screen from the comfort of your bed?
It's all just so easy, especially when you're desperate for a warm body come Valentine's day.
I'll be completely honest: I've delved into the wide foray of dating apps. From Tinder to OkCupid to Grindr, I even formed a sort of obsession at some point.
You have to admit it's fun; the fact that you are, for once, allowed to judge people by their looks or your shallow first impressions is exhilarating.
However, to be fair, I have met some wonderful guys online and wasn't completely creeped out by them. That's a win in my book.
We have been slowly removing the need for face to face interaction in almost every aspect of our lives, to the point that we don't need it. Social media redefined friendship, YouTube redefined learning and now dating apps are redefining, well, dating.
Despite the clear ridiculousness of dating apps, there is one aspect that could be helpful in your actual dating life.
Before the craziness of Tinder, Grindr and other swipe-as-you-go dating apps, there were services that actually cared about personality, values and interests when it came to a match.
You know those commercials that have that old guy talking about all the couples who got married through their online dating website? Those couples definitely did not match on Tinder.
Instead, they filled out a comprehensive questionnaire that gave them an idea of what they were getting into. Granted, some of these sites have some weird questions.
My personal favorite being, "Biting?" Although, in retrospect, that does seem relatively important.
Anyway, the questions these dating sites ask are helpful when trying to find a date, and when you're thinking of starting a long-term relationship.
They bring up the questions you don't think of asking, but should be. So, here are the 32 online dating questions you should ask before starting a relationship.
If you had to name your greatest motivation in life, thus far, what would it be?
Wealth? Knowledge? Creativity? This question lets you and your significant other see if you're on the same paths.
I can't tell you the number of times I've seen a relationship falter because the two people were on different pages in their lives.
How important is it to you to have your own unique “thing” (like a girls' night out or guys' movie night) that you don’t share with your partner?
Raise your hand if you were in a relationship or know somebody in a relationship who couldn't be separated from his or her partner with a crowbar. Everybody? Cool.
How often are you open with your feelings?
Especially for guys, do you really want to be sitting on the couch with your sobbing girlfriend pretending to care that she is depressed she'll never be as flawless as Beyoncé?
Do you often make jokes that offend more uptight people?
If they say no, they're probably uptight.
Do you believe in the power of prayer?
For obvious reasons.
Once you’re intimate, how often would you and your significant other have sex?
I think people forget about this one a lot. Some people see sex as a necessary part of a relationship.
Some people think it's great, but it's okay if they skip a couple nights. Find this one out before you get a "you up?" text every night.
Do you have a problem with racist jokes?
For obvious reasons.
Is it a requirement that you communicate every day with your significant other (via phone, text, in person, whatever)?
Nobody wants that needy partner who always needs attention.
How important is it for you to make physical contact when showing affection for someone?
PDA couples tend to be on the same page. Private couples seem to be on the same page. It's just natural that you and your partner are on the same page, too.
Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?
This one legitimately surprised me. I got in a long debate with a guy over this. I thought the clear answer was yes. Apparently, some people disagree.
Are geeks sexy?
I just included this because the answer is hell yes!
Would you date someone who was always optimistic?
Nothing is more annoying than always being optimistic … unless you're into that. See, that's why you should be asking these questions.
Regardless of your actual age, do you consider yourself to be an adult?
When you get into your 20s, this question becomes more and more important.
Being a 20-something is probably the biggest grey area you'll encounter in your life. However, it's better to be in the same grey area as your significant other.
Do you say "thank you" to wait staff when served in a restaurant?
This is just a question of respect. Depending where you're from, the norm might be different. However, most of us have worked in the retail or service industry, if that doesn't make you worship a waiter, I don't know what will.
How often do you do things out of spite?
Doing things out of spite is a very aggressive and forward part of someone's personality
How frequently do you bathe or shower?
When you are angry or frustrated, do you ever throw, smash, kick, hit inanimate objects (non-living things)?
Aggression can be a turn-on or a turn-off, depending on the person. You better find out before you see it personally.
In a serious relationship, do you feel it's important to keep your significant other informed of the details of your day-to-day life?
I think this question goes back to neediness, jealousy and trust, among other key factors in a relationship.
Which of the following best describes your typical demeanor?
This goes along with your day-to-day living situation.
How are you most likely to show your partner you care?
Words, actions, gifts or touch? Better find out now before you tell her how much you appreciate her for Valentine's day and she really just wanted a new purse.
Are you a workaholic?
For obvious reasons.
Are you a morning person?
I'm not saying morning people should only date morning people, but morning people should only date morning people.
Would you consider sexually cutting a partner if they asked you to?
Not actually important, but seriously, who writes these questions?
Have a safe and happy Valentine's Day!