I can’t decide if having a crush is the best thing ever, or the worst. On the one hand, who doesn’t love that rush of butterflies when you see your crush? But on the other hand, there's the fear of rejection and disappointment if they don’t return the feelings. So I guess the answer is both, and while you can't really control who you catch feelings for, you can save yourself some trouble and heartache by understanding how to know if you’re compatible to begin with.
Being able to weed out the ones you won’t really mesh with from the long-term possibilities is really helpful. For one thing, you don’t want to waste your time with someone who ultimately won’t make you happy, but if you're the sort (like me TBH) who is scared to put yourself out there and pursue them, having an idea if you’re simpatico — and if they're maybe already feeling you, too — can make that a lot less intimidating. For insight into whether or not you and your crush will really click, Elite Daily reached out to NYC relationship expert Susan Winter, who broke down the obvious signs of compatibility and even a few more subtle ones. Here's what she says to look for.