This List Of 12 Common Things That Annoy Wedding Guests Will Make You Say "Ugh"

A flight to Mexico City and a cab ride? That's fine, because I committed to your destination wedding and that's the same amount of transportation it would take if I was flying to Mexico for vacation. But a flight to Vermont where I need to rent a car and then drive two more hours to a faraway farm? That's rough. (And also, sorry, not Mexico.)

But before I whine too much, I'll say that there is a very easy way to resolve this: just organize that bus from the airport for your wedding crew, or let us know ahead of time that there won't be Ubers available to take us from the airport to Tiny Town, New Hampshire. Information is key.

I recently received a save-the-date that listed one lodging option that required a two-night minimum at $450 a room, with one night's stay deposit. I said "hard pass," and did my own Airbnb search. I definitely understand that it can be tricky to arrange lodging for all of your guests, but providing information about the different options is extremely helpful. I don't care if it's a Holiday Inn — just tell me where to look! Especially if you're not getting married in a major city.

After a long ceremony, and an even longer trip, the last thing your guests feel like doing is waiting in a massive line for the bathroom or cocktail hour bar. Choosing a venue with ample bathrooms and bars is key. The best solution to this I've seen in action? A self-serve frozen margarita machine bar. (And that was a black-tie wedding. Yes please.)

If you are asking the majority of guests to travel to your wedding — even if it's just a four or five hours — understand that they'll probably want to settle in the night before, so that they can enjoy their Saturday morning pre-wedding, and start looking fabulous, so plan something for them.

No, you don't need to invite everyone to your rehearsal dinner because it is 2018, but organizing welcome drinks for people to get to know each other is the right move here.

I completely understand that weddings are expensive, and that some couples are on a budget. I would tell those couples to go to City Hall, and then throw a really great party afterward. Taking up someone's Fourth of July, Memorial Day, or even Labor Day just feels a bit self-important.

Arbor Day? St. Patrick's Day? Go for it! I'm even OK with a Friday wedding — if it's a destination wedding. You're probably traveling Friday AM anyways, and then you have Saturday to hang out in Chapel Hill at a Brewery with the bride and groom (shout out to my friend's wedding that fully converted me on Friday weddings). Taking up a holiday, however, is a rough look, no matter what day that holiday falls on.

I love you, I do, but I can't buy a gift for every darn party you invite me to. I think having a bachelorette and a wedding is a great in between. Especially since the rule is that you should send a gift to a shower even if you can't make it. (Tacky!) You don't want your friends buying three presents and a flight to Nashville all in the name of your love.

These women are probably buying dresses, presents, flights to Nashville (see above) and more. Even if your bridesmaids are single, give them a plus-one. I promise they won't take you up on it with some random from the dive bar, and the gesture is classy. And if you really can't swing it, be sure to sit her next to the cutest single groomsman.

When there is no dress code clearly listed on an invite, you are doing both yourselves and your guests a disservice. If you're throwing the wedding, you are going to field one million texts from guests to clarify, which sucks. Plus, then your more polite guests who don't want to bother you might end up over or underdressed, which is never a good time. Pick a traditional and clear dress code like "formal" or "cocktail attire," place it on the invite, and let them Google for clarifications from there.

Again, I sound like Scrooge, but asking guests to spend an arm and a leg on multiple flights for destination wedding events is a lot. Especially because they're probably going to quite a few more weddings this summer. It's wedding season, which is fun, but expensive. Remember how you once felt as a guest!

I know that buffet dinners are sometimes unavoidable, but I hate waiting in a line for rapidly cooling food while craning my neck to watch the heartfelt speeches (my favorite part of a wedding). I want to be able to toast! Try to organize the food timing ahead of time.

Flood my mentions, but I don't love children at weddings. These are adult affairs, especially if it's an evening wedding, and screaming children just don't exactly fit the mix. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule: if the couple has children already, family members, and so on. But I would highly consider adding a "no kids" disclaimer to your invite.

I would rather have a 20-person wedding with an open bar and oysters than a 150-person wedding with a cash bar. It's just wrong. People are spending money on you, the least you can provide is an open bar.

This is harsh, but this is how I feel. It's your special day, and the more fun your guests have, the more fun you will have. Happy guests will make for a more memorable wedding day than custom chocolates shaped like the bride and groom as party favors. I promise.