If you tend to be the receiving partner, vaginally or anally, there are loads of reasons to be on top in bed. Whether you're giving a hearty yeehaw to reverse cowgirl (hello, roleplay!) or experimenting with furniture and f*cking, being on top can mean more satisfaction all around. It can give you a better angle to be receive pleasure. Or, being on top can provide a better angle to give it, especially if you're riding your partner in a mischievous, teasing way.
Most on-top positions allow for one partner to be penetrated, with both partners' erogenous zones — nipples, chest, stomach, back, thighs — accessible for teasing. You can even add in a sex toy to make the pleasure that much more profound. Overall, it's a way to give and receive in heightened, ultra-intense way.
While getting on top in bed can be nerve-wracking or even uncomfortable, it doesn't have to be. When trying it with a partner, have them lay down flat on their back and gently straddle them. Make sure you're upright and that your knees are on each side of their body. It's A-OK to take their strap-on or penis, and guide it inside you. (Lube is 100% recommended, if the angle isn't super comfortable in the moment, or hasn't been in the past.) The rest is about finding your rhythm on top.
Here are just a few reasons why it's so sensational to graduate from missionary to being on top.