Falling in love can happen with hardly any thought or effort on your part. But very often, falling out of love takes work. If you parted ways due to practical issues, you may have some lingering feelings for your former partner well after the relationship has ended. Fortunately, experts say there are some foolproof ways to fall out of love with your ex. All it really takes is a shift in your habits and routines to shake up your mindset and start to move forward.
According to Chelsea Leigh Trescott, breakup coach and podcast host of Thank You Heartbreak, if a relationship ended unexpectedly due to inconvenient circumstances (such as a move) or an issue of compatibility rather than a lack of affection or chemistry, it’s only natural to still have some love for your ex. But no matter what the nature of your breakup was, licensed clinical social worker Melanie Shapiro says you shouldn’t be hard on yourself if those feelings are still there.
“Falling out of love is an active decision to change thoughts, behaviors and even certain events, neighborhoods, and songs," she tells Elite Daily.
The good news is, you’re not helpless in your circumstances. Doing things like setting healthy boundaries (especially if you maintain contact with your former partner) and focusing on self-love can go a long way in helping you to move on. And if you need a little extra push, here are a few expert-approved strategies for getting over your ex.