Compatibility is complex — it doesn’t just refer to whether your personality traits mesh well and your values line up, but also whether you share similar visions for the future. In other words, even if two people are perfect for each other in practically every way, they’re going to run into some issues if they're headed in different directions. That’s why it’s important to recognize the signs that your partner isn’t ready to settle down yet. Because identifying these signals can inspire you to reassess the relationship and your overall compatibility in a new and meaningful way.
First off, it’s important to note that settling down can mean different things to different people. For some, it simply means pursuing a long-term monogamous partnership. For others, it involves getting engaged. Others may feel that it includes buying a house and having kids. But on the whole, settling down implies a steady lifestyle — one in which both partners intend to commit to each other, and build a life together.
Fortunately, Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, psychotherapist and author of the new book Training Your Love Intuition. says that if you’re brave enough to open your eyes and ears, it's possible to tell if you're partner isn't quite ready to settle down. Here are some of the common signs to look out for.