Do Less: 17 Things You Shouldn't Do When He's Clearly Not That Into You
You meet the perfect guy, with the entire package.
He has the best smile and sense of humor. He’s outgoing, goal-oriented, spontaneous and, let’s face it, just downright smokin’ hot.
Besides making you feel like the most special girl in the world, he may be wowing you with the coolest dates, and you’ve been texting nonstop.
You feel he’s looking at you in all the right ways (and in all the right places). This guy seems way too good to be true.
You’re officially on cloud nine and just can’t seem to climb down. It’s simply heaven.
Or so it seems… until the texts get fewer and further between. You haven’t seen him in days and are starting to overanalyze.
When you finally do get him to hang out or text back, he’s distant, not flirtatious or silly, and you’re yearning to keep the conversation alive.
The major thing many women continue to overlook is a plain and simple fact: If a guy wants to see you, he will make every effort to make it happen.
No excuses or rescheduling.
Before your dignity completely falls to the floor, take some words of wisdom from my girl Liz Taylor:
“Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together.”
Stop living in denial, face the facts, and read between the lines.
Here are all the "Don'ts" when dealing with a guy who's clearly just not that into you:
1. Don’t make excuses for him.
If you sense he’s checking out other girls and their goodies, he probably is.
His wandering eye will never be 100 percent team you.
2. Don’t be naive.
That hot girl “friend” who you suspect is more than just a friend… trust your instincts.
She probably is.
3. Don’t be a texting stalker.
If he’s not texting or calling you back (or initiating texts/calls on his own), he clearly doesn’t want to.
4. Don’t have clouded judgment.
Don’t let your vision be skewed just because you had an awesome date.
It doesn’t mean he rated it awesome.
5. Don’t have expectations too soon.
He may not invite you to chill or hang with his friends. Either he’s not ready or doesn’t intend on introducing you to them.
Know if he is into you, he will be anxious for you to meet all of them.
6. Don’t be a crazy b*tch.
If your man wants to make time for you, he will.
Don’t be a creep.
Stop leaving him messages and stalking his Facebook. It’s unattractive, and you deserve attention from the right guy.
7. Don’t confuse a few dates with being in a declared relationship.
Going on a few dates is not a commitment for life.
Dating is the process to see if you click together.
If you’re obviously not clicking, pick your pride off the floor, and get your priorities in line… because he obviously has, and they don’t include you.
8. Don’t mistake a booty call for more than a booty call.
If you don’t hear from him during the day for plans but always seem to get a late-night text, don’t think he’s going to want anything other than booty.
Booty guy is not about a relationship; don’t try to make him be.
Move on, and find a guy who actually wants commitment… other than at 11 pm every other week.
9. Don’t settle for second best.
If he is always on his phone texting with other people when he is with you, he’s not into you.
He’s rude or easily distracted, and you deserve better than that.
10. Don’t think you are special to him if you don’t feel special.
If he doesn’t show much interest in really learning more about you, or if he doesn’t put thought into some sort of special planning, he clearly doesn’t care.
11. Don’t travel down a one-way street.
If he’s not making an effort to make the plans, then you are not his priority.
Make sure you are giving him time to initiate the next date before you jump at inviting him to do something.
12. Don’t make the mistake of not hearing what you don’t want to hear.
If he doesn’t really talk about doing things together down the road or into the future, that’s not a great sign.
“I want to take you to my favorite restaurant soon.”
“I got tickets to the Yankees game next month, and you should come with me.”
If you are in his future, you will know it.
13. Don’t be so eager to request him first on social media.
Lots of guys aren’t as into Facebook or Instagram as girls are.
As tempting as it is to find out more about him, sit back a bit and don’t pounce.
14. Don’t be blind, but observe gently.
Once you are on social media with him, you will see a lot of his business.
He is entitled to his life, and so are you! Don’t get crazy.
15. Don’t be too quick to get serious if you think you really like him.
By all means, enjoy your time with him.
Get to know what he’s like on the inside before you get emotionally or physically attached to the outside.
It’s what’s inside that is most important and harder to get to.
16. Don’t overlook the things Mom would notice.
Make sure he is respectful and courteous (opening doors, letting you know he had a great date and at least offering to pick up the tab).
If he thinks you are something special, he will be a gentleman and treat you that way.
17. Don’t think he’s looking at you if he’s not really looking at you.
If you really pay close attention, you can tell the difference between when a guy lusts at you and when a guy looks at you.
Obviously, the ultimate goal is lust, but if you’re looking for love, he needs to see the bigger package first.
This list is not meant to be harsh -- just real.
It’s easy to get wrapped up into an attraction and have impaired judgment. These points are to help you think with a clear mind.
It’s a normal reaction to make excuses and not think clearly when you are attracted to a guy who seems like a good prospect.
Don’t do it!
Listen to that inner voice that says something isn’t right because that voice always is.
You are worth finding a dream guy who is 100 percent on the same page as you. He’s out there, but it will take time to find him.
If the perfect guy were easy to meet, everyone would have met him already.
Once you find Prince Charming, you will know he was worth the wait. And he will be 100 percent into you, and more.