OK, I'm going to be real: I don't get the point of playing hard to get. I don't get the point of games in general. If I made the rules of the dating world, I would say: If someone shows romantic interest in you and you feel the same way, then reciprocate it. If you're not interested, then indicate it. But unfortunately, I don't make the rules. Some people might make you work to earn their affection, but it's also possible that your crush may be stringing you along, and if you're looking for signs someone's not interested in you, then I've got you.
Of course, playing hard to get has its benefits. By curbing your affection, you can figure out who's really interested (and who's just a heartbreak waiting to happen). But if you suspect that your crush isn't just playing it cool and is instead just not that into you, it's better to find that out sooner rather than later. Elite Daily spoke to language strategist and political commentator Lee Hartley Carter, author of PERSUASION: Convincing Others When Facts Don't Seem to Matter, and she offered some advice on how to figure out what the person you’re trying to persuade actually desires.