Most of my friends are artists. This means: good jewelry, eye-rolling at Damien Hirst, and constant debate on how the artistic value of a piece is derived — from its outside reception or from its own creative process. When asking if something's merit is based off its public reception, I can't help but think of dating. Am I more valuable when I have a partner? When there's a market for me? What then, if no one is trying to date you? Or better yet, what if you like someone, but not enough to date them.
When you really want a partner and it keeps not working out, it can be hard enough to picture yourself seeing someone — let alone seeing someone and realizing you're the one who's not into it. Or, if you're a cutie that who doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship or if you like the new person you're seeing but don't really want to DTR, dropping the "I don't want to exclusively date" can be tricky.
Knowing you like someone but don't want to date them is hard, especially when "dating" means so many different things to different people. In an endless search for clarity in dating, I reached out to Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, and Thomas Edwards Jr., founder of The Professional Wingman, about how to know when you like someone but don't really want to date them.