The biggest thing to remember is that in order to get out of your dating rut, you need to have the right attitude.
"First of all, being single is not a fatal disease, so [don't have] that mindset," Greene says. And beyond that, it's about taking action and being patient with yourself.
"Anything that's important enough takes time, effort, resilience, and perseverance," Greene explains. If you want something bad enough, you have to come up with a plan."
Greene says she encourages the women she works with to follow a 60-day action plan, where every day they do something that will bring them closer to their goal of meeting someone by doing things like making small talk with strangers. Basically, you want to be putting yourself out there a little bit every day and challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone.
Greene also encourages people to join two different dating sites or apps, one a more mainstream site, and another that's more niche and appeals to your specific interests and what you're looking for. She also suggests coming up with a personal quota for responding to or sending a certain number of messages per day or per week.
"Whatever number is doable — I really encourage people to come up with a daily quota [so] you are called to action on a daily basis, but it's whatever works for you," Greene says.
Greene also says people looking to put themselves out there should definitely consider using their social media to meet people romantically.
"Whether it's Facebook, Instagram, Twitter — although they're not dating platforms, they are certainly ways to meet people," Greene says, adding that you can DM people or even post a status about looking to meet new people.
The key, Greene says, is not hiding that you're single — you want to let people (your friends, your family, your overall circle of people you know) know that you're looking to date and meet new people. You should also try things you might normally not do, like going to speed-dating events or even making the first move when you see someone you might be interested in.
And on top of it all, it's also important to reframe the way you think of rejection, and try to enjoy every small step (even if, as Greene points out, dating and putting yourself out there can feel like a second job) and think of it an adventure as you go.
"Think about [how] every 'No' gets you closer to 'Yes,'" Green says. "Anybody who comes into your life, you have something to gain from them — even if it's knowing what you don't want."
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