What You Need To Know About Each Stage Of Your Relationship With A Virgo

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Look, some would argue that the beginning of a relationship is the most difficult, when people feel the most directionless, with no sense of direction or any idea where things are headed. But each stage of a relationship presents difficulties and challenges, unique in their own way, and we all have to meet and face those challenges head-on if we want the relationship to continue, let alone to flourish. So the best thing to think about in these moments is to consider that astrology could be your guide. I've already covered this with Aquarius men, but Virgo men are complicated, so now we're going to talk about everything you need to know about every stage of your relationship with a Virgo.

There are challenges to every relationship for sure, but a relationship with a Virgo presents its own unique issues depending on the kind of Virgo you're dating. Some Virgos overanalyze everything. Others, you just won't ever find them playing hard-to-get. Obviously, there are challenges to individual compatibility as well, but for today, we're gonna stick to just the challenges of being with Virgo, the most critical, detail-oriented (and yes, sometimes the most judgmental) sign in the zodiac.

Before The First Date

Virgos love to do research, and if they're interested in you, they will do re-con on you better than the FBI would. They won't make it super creepy, mostly because their biggest fear is coming off as a psychopath or emotionally unstable in any way.

Virgos have an incredible ability to maintain at least the look of a sane person even when they are feeling completely psychotic. They don't see Googling everything but your family tree as being crazy, they just want to walk into a conversation with you as informed as possible. It's part of their mutable element, it helps them to get a read on you before they walk blindly into an attempt to impress you.

The First Date

If all the data they've gathered on you lines up, once a Virgo is absolutely sure you have some interest in them (also part of their research process), they'll make it clear they're interested. It might not be as passionate, direct or as headstrong an effort as say, an Aries, but that's because a Virgo would rather have you make the first move.

If they must ask you on the first date, they'll do it under the guise of some sort of educational experience. They'll say, "Oh you have to see this show it's amazing, everyone is talking about it," etc. You won't even realize it's a date until you get there.

The First Month

After about a month with a Virgo, you'll probably feel like you've been seeing one another for a week. Things move slowly with this sign. They aren't comfortable running into a big emotional affair. You might wonder if they're even interested because they most likely won't sit you down and tell you they are.

Here's the key to determining whether or not a Virgo is interested: Watch their actions. They love to do acts of service for the ones they love. They'll leave you your keys, your work materials, your coat all by the door for you in the morning to make sure you won't forget anything on your way to your 9 to 5. They'll find out what kind of face cream you use and they'll buy one for their own apartment so you won't have to bring it every time you sleep over. This is how you'll know.

If you can accept these things and you don't need to hear words of affirmation so much, you will absolutely love being with a Virgo.

The First Year

Congratulations! You've made it through the most fun year of your relationship (up until this point)! You have so much to look forward to. If you've made it this far, you probably know what annoys your partner, what they like, what makes them comfortable and what doesn't. You might have even moved in together. Who knows?

The key from here on out is to focus on communication. Remember how you accepted that Virgos weren't really big into communication in the beginning of the relationship? Well, now is the time to try to pry some of their feelings out of them.

Try to let them know that a relationship's growth depends on the couple's ability to reveal themselves to one another emotionally. If you frame it as a way to improve yourselves and the relationship as a whole, a Virgo will open right up. They're always down for self-improvement.

Overall, this sign is fantastic at cohabitation, as they're clean, kind, compassionate, thoughtful, and respectful of the space you live in. They'll do their part (and more) to keep the space you live in beautiful, and they keep their eyes on the future, on the chance that they can make a relationship work forever. They may not be the most romantic sign, but you'll love having their stable, grounded influence in your life.