Let’s talk about sex. More specifically — maintenance sex. The term describes a specific kind of intimacy: The kind you engage in regularly even when you may not necessarily be “in the mood" in order to keep your relationship running smoothly. But how often do you have maintenance sex? Is there such a thing as too little or too much?
The very term “maintenance sex” is not exactly sexy. But the reality is, it can be a relationship saver. When two people initially begin dating, things are typically steamy AF. There’s so much to experience and discover together. (Who knew that would feel good? Did we invent that position, or what?) Of course, over time, the novelty of it wears off, and for some couples, that leads to getting it on far less often (see: the saddest subReddit ever, Deadbedrooms). Why is this problematic? Well, according to a 2016 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, when couples have sex less than once a week, their overall happiness actually suffers. The good news? Having sex more than once a week didn't really make a difference — so as long as couples were making that happen at least once in that seven-day time frame, they were golden.
Enter: maintenance sex, which encourages you and your SO to keep up with physical intimacy, thus preventing those dreaded dry spells. It's crucial to note that both people have to be down to do the deed — you should never feel forced or obligated to have sex. As for how often partners should participate in this routine — that’s obviously going to vary based on their needs. But here's what a handful of people had to say about their habits.