If you and your partner pride yourselves on always thinking outside of the box, you may already be a little weary of overrated date night ideas. Whether dinner and a movie just don't cut it or you'd rather wax your entire body than take a ride in a horse-drawn carriage, being in love can mean putting your own spin on how you spend time together. Of course, communication and transparency are key. And if you're not into an idea for date night or you'd rather be doing something else, it's always OK to (politely) say so. Your boo will probably be happy you did.
Maybe your partner likes to make a big show out of holidays, and you prefer to keep things low-key. Or perhaps you love to go hiking, but your partner's idea of being outside is sitting on the patio at their favorite bar. Planning a special date night doesn't have to mean dragging your boo somewhere they don't want to be or pretending you like a bunch of stuff that you don't actually like. It can look like being open and honest with each other about where your head is at.
Here are eight overrated date night ideas to skip when you'd rather be doing something else.
You don't have to like all of your partner's friends. I'll say it again: You. Don't. Have. To. Like. All. Of. Your. Partner's. Friends. Should you be polite to them? Probably — you should consider treating them with empathy and respect in the same way that you'd treat anyone else. But do you need to go on a double-date to a restaurant you don't like on the other side of town with them? Why no, you most certainly do not.
Yes, relationships are all about compromise. Sometimes, you have to go to your partner's sister's baby shower instead of eating a breakfast burrito in bed because you're working on connecting your families more. However, if you hate, hate, hate spending time outdoors, you don't need to go on a "cute nature date" with your partner. In fact, if you really hate anything — shopping, French food, going to the gym, nature museums, board games, etc. — you don't need to feel the pressure to "suck it up" or "just deal with it." Your boo likes you for you. They don't like you for pretending to be someone that you're not. It's OK to let your partner enjoy their hobbies with other people who enjoy them, too. Meet up after and do something you both like.
OK, if your boo has the stomach bug and just got fired from their job, chances are they aren't in the mood to take you out on the town. However, if anniversaries or birthdays are important to you, or you just got a promotion or internship, and you're trying to celebrate, you don't need to feel any pressure to "chill" when you'd rather go out. You're not "needy" or "materialistic" for wanting to have a special night with the person you're dating. It's OK to want to make a big deal out of something, and it's OK to want more out of date night than take-out and a movie. There are plenty of thoughtful date ideas that don't break the bank, so communicate how you feel and open up a dialogue with your partner about settling on a compromise.
There's no shortage of Instagram-worthy moments that happen on date nights (think: rooftop bars, flower walls, and neon signs with arbitrary messages like, "Here You Are"). While sharing your joy on social media can be a sweet way to connect with your friends and family, you never need to feel any pressure to get the "perfect shot" on date night, or to even Instagram about your date at all. You and your boo can connect IRL, and that can be enough.