Being in a relationship obviously means sharing many aspects of your lives — typically, goals, passions, friendships, and perhaps even a home and a future together. But there are some things that might be better served if you keep it separate from your relationship — and that's family drama. When your boo gets involved in these conflicts, it not only poses a risk to their bond with your loved ones but also to your bond with each other. That’s why keeping your partner out of your family drama and establishing boundaries can be important.
But how can you help to prevent them from getting involved, or getting too involved? After all, when someone you love sees how turmoil in your home is affecting you, they may be tempted to step in. I should know — there have been countless occasions during which my boyfriend came close to accidentally becoming a middleman between my mother and I. In fact, one night, after she lashed out at me in a particularly dramatic way, he admitted he desperately wanted to call her to scold her for the way she was treating me. Fortunately, had the self-control and respect for me to abstain from dialing her number. And while I appreciated that he cared enough to want to help, I was grateful he didn’t get involved, as I knew it could potentially stoke my mother’s resentment even further.
Here are some expert-approved strategies for making sure your SO stays out of the family drama and respects your boundaries — for the sake of protecting all your relationships.