How do you know when it's time to go from hooking up to home for the holidays together? One expert says you just have to look out for these three signs you want something more serious. I spoke with Aoife Drury, a psychosexual and relationship therapist, who believes you'll know it's time to update your relationship status based on a few subtle differences in your thinking and your dating tactics. Most notably, you become less focused on instant gratification and more concerned with making sustainable plans for a future with someone.
This shift in thinking might have something to do with a recent milestone in your life. Maybe you've just graduated from college or accepted a job in a new city. Either way, you sense that your one-night stands are a thing of the past, much like your 8 a.m. classes, and you're ready to trade in your morning-after attire for a weekend bag and a serious commitment.
It's important not to confuse this readiness for something more with loneliness or boredom. Getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons is never a good idea and you'll only end up hurting yourself (and your partner) in the long run. If you can check each of these things off, you really are ready to go steady.