10 Texts To Send After A Date If You Need To Let Them Down Easy
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You went on a bad date, and that’s a bummer, but even worse, apparently, your date didn't get the memo, and they are pressing you for round two. You definitely aren't feeling it, so it's time to send the dreaded rejection text. Yes, coming up with texts to send after a date to let them down easy can be really hard, and I know what you're thinking: I could just ghost them. Yeah, you could, but do you remember how sh*tty that feels when it happens you? Resist that urge. Be the change you want to see in the world.
There’s something about rejection that really inspires writer’s block, but it is possible to write something that, while it might sting at first for the person you're sending it to, will actually let the person down fairly easily — especially when compared to just disappearing without explanation.
There are two things to keep in mind when drafting a rejection text. First of all, be kind. Just because you aren't interested doesn’t meant you're free to step on their feelings. Treat them how you would want to be treated and always lead with a compliment. Secondly, be direct; don’t beat around the bush and draw it out in some messy, easy-to-misinterpret essay. Just gently say you’re not interested and close the door. See, that’s not so hard. Still stuck? Feel free to use one of the following ideas that best fits your bad date scenario.
1. For The Date Who Was Your Perfect Match — On Paper
This scenario is always such a bummer. Everything about your date is exactly what you are looking for in theory, and yet, something still isn't working. It's rare, but it does happen, and in that case, it’s best to just let them down quickly and easily.
2. For The Date Who Seems Perfect — For Someone Else
Again, this person is great, and you could really see a future with them — and your friend. In that case, you may even want to follow up by suggesting she take your place on date two if they are both feeling it.
3. For Someone Whom You Just Didn't Click With
There is nothing "wrong" with this person, y'all just didn't click. Better for you both to just keep it moving ASAP.
4. For The Person Who Can Handle The Truth Straight Up
Do you get the sense your date was a straight shooter, but they just weren't the one? Do them the courtesy of keeping it real.
5. For The Date Who Is Destined For The Friend Zone
The friend zone is a cliché... but it's a real one. No one wants to end up there, but even worse than ending up in the friend zone is the hope there may be some way out when there isn't. Be kind and let them know.
6. For The Date Whom You Legit Want To Be Friends With — But That's It
OK, so there’s the friend zone, and then there's the "Oh My God, We Have BFF Potential" zone. If you really do want this person in your life, but never, ever want to see them naked, there's no harm in asking.
7. For The Date Who's Just Looking For Something Casual
I suspect this rejection text is going to get a lot of use. Deploy it after a first date when you can tell they are looking for a hookup and you're looking for something real.
8. For the Person Who Wants To Get Serious When You Don't
Maybe you're just looking to keep it light and breezy, and they are trying to put a ring on it. Let them know you have different goals in mind in a kind, gentle, and direct way. You're doing the next girl who may want to get serious a big favor.
9. For The Zero-Chemistry Date
Did they bore you to tears or give you the creeps? Whatever the case may be, if there’s no chemistry, it’s time to let them know.
10. For The Jerk You Hope To Never Hear From Again
There are not enough eye rolls in the world for this scenario, so this text blow-off will have to do.
See, not so hard after all, right? Yes, your date probably won’t be thrilled to get your text at first, but a moment of disappointment is better than an unspecified amount of time left wondering. Plus, it’s just good anti-ghosting karma for you!
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