Whether you're looking for a gift set to heat up the holidays, or want to spoil your partner any time of year, a BDSM starter kit might be just what you need. While there's nothing wrong with more "traditional" sex positions, trying out kink in the bedroom can give you and your partner the chance to explore your sexuality together and dive into something new. ICYMI, BDSM is an umbrella term for three types of sexual play: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. In practice, this could include bondage in the form of handcuffs, sensation play in the form of spanking, or pleasurable pain play, like nipple clamps.
Millennials are no strangers to kinky sex. A 2019 Cosmopolitan study found that 20% of respondents said they had done BDSM, while 44% said they had used a sex toy with a partner. Whether you and your partner are curious about BDSM (consent from both parties to participate in BDSM is crucial), or you've tried it and want to experiment further, investing in a sex toy bundle is a fun and efficient way to try a little bit of everything when it comes to kinky sex.
Once you and your partner have established a safe-word, here are 10 BDSM starter kits you can look into to add a little spark to your sex life.
Unbound's Kinkstarter Set allows for you and your partner to experiment with a range of sensations. The kit features lube, a glass dildo, and glamorous nipple clamps. It also includes a pinwheel called Spike, and a double-ended paddle called Tsk. A pro-tip for sensation play, especially for BDSM beginners: Less can be more. Instead of whipping someone with tassels, the dominant partner can opt for tickling the submissive partner's erogenous zones instead.
Adam & Eve's Sex & Mischief Kit has three simple, effective components: an eye mask, some fuzzy handcuffs, and a little whip. (Again, tickling can be super effective here.) It's short, sweet, and to the point.
This "sex game" is a solid purchase if you're looking to spend the weekend in bed, as this kit's name suggests. Included are feathered nipple clamps, satin ties, and PVC tape for reusable bondage. The kit also has 40 cards with sexy instructions like, "Blindfold your partner and use an ice cube to arouse them." Last but not least, the kit includes how-to cards on bondage and BDSM safety. Always important!
Even though the idea behind this Amazon kit is simple — just some soft restraints and a blindfold — the leopard print gives it an extra sexy factor.
While the Fifty Shades of Grey series is far from exemplary when it comes to BDSM, this Fifty Shades Freed-era BDSM set presents you with lots of wonderful (and aesthetically-pleasing) sex toys to play with. This kit comes with butt plugs, a cock ring, a silky blindfold, a vibrator, and feathers, all in an indulgent eggplant color.
Likewise, this Fifty Shades-themed set has silvery restraints and a blindfold — ideal if you and your partner are just looking for just one or two new things to try out in bed.
Pink Cherry's Fuzzy Lovers set has a little bit of everything: fuzzy handcuffs, a fuzzy paddle, nipple clamps, "spreader" restraints, and a bag so you can keep your sex toys all in one place. Efficiency and exploration? Love to see it!
While this kit shouldn't serve as an actual replacement to therapy, the playfully-named Pink Cherry Sex Therapy Kit is a chance to explore a more tender side of kinky sex. This set includes fuzzy handcuffs, faux rose petals, a massager, a satin eye mask, warming lotion, and some romantic candles.
Keeping with the romantic BDSM theme, you and your partner can purchase this spicy red garter, matching feather tickler, lacy restraints, and sex dice from Amazon for an affordable price.
Last but not least, this flowery BDSM kit from Amazon also invites more of a "dainty" approach to BDSM, with its millennial pink hues, soft cuffs, and blindfold.
Whether you and your partner are seasoned BDSM pros, or you're taking your first steps toward adventures in the bedroom, there's probably a BDSM starter kit that fits both your experience level and your aesthetic. All it takes is a little bit of research.
