Apologies aren't the easiest to do, but they pay off in the long run.
It can be challenging identifying when you really should apologize about something, especially since your grade school teacher isn't taking you by the hand and leading you to the very point you went wrong.
It's all on us now.
You're going to make mistakes throughout your life; that's a fact. But as you're just getting your feet wet in the #adulting lifestyle, when you're in your 20s, it's not so simple to identify what you did wrong.
It's also just as frustrating when you don't realize a simple, genuine "I'm sorry" could fix even the big stuff.
Seriously though, there are a few important things you need to apologize for in your 20s to save you from a headache and any unnecessary drama in your 30s.
1. Purposely Hurting Someone's Feelings
When we get hurt, we sometimes want the person to feel exactly how they made us feel.
It's all too true that no one ever wins in this cycle, and both parties end up feeling super crummy in the end. Rise about it, and be the bigger person.
2. Breaking Someone's Heart
Even if you didn't break someone's heart intentionally, you have to take accountability for causing them emotional pain.
Wouldn't you want the same closure?
3. Saying Something Out Of Anger
We give words meaning. So, imagine how horrible words infused with anger must sound and feel to the person you said them to.
4. Anything Involving Your Parents
Our parents are literally the reason we're here. They aren't always right, but we sort of have a genetic loyalty and respect for them. Besides, you never stop needing your parents.
No argument or disagreement is worth denying that.
5. Leading Someone On
This apology is super important.
Leading someone on wastes not only your time, but the person involved, too. That time is something they can never get back, nor can they recycle the feelings and energy they spent on you.
6. Cheating And Getting Away With It
Even if you don't feel bad about cheating on someone and getting away with it, they have a right to know.
Keeping them in the dark selfishly makes you seem like an honest, trustworthy person to the guy or girl you cheated on.
7. Saying Something Behind Someone's Back
It happens. And even if you didn't mean for it to come out, it was said.
You can never go wrong with being straightforward with someone about how you feel about them. They're probably more content with hearing it from you than from a second source.
8. Saying "I Love You" And Not Meaning It
This is the holy grail of apologies.
Hearing or saying "I love you" for the first time can knock you off your feet. It's not something that should be thrown around loosely.
If you ever said it and didn't mean it, you played with someone's heartstrings, because you couldn't be honest. No one deserves that.
Apologies are simple but get complicated when we think of every excuse in the book to not say them. Your 20s will be filled with mistakes, but if you make good use of those apologies, you won't carry them into your 30s.