Guille Faingold

How To Deal When Two Of Your Best Friends Start Dating

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The struggle can be all too real when two of your best friends start dating.

You may experience an "I knew it" moment, because you probably sensed something fishy going on before they made it Facebook official. They're your besties, so you know them like the back of your hand.

You can't deny they're perfect for each other. And although you may be kind of excited for them at first, the anxiety eventually sets in.

What does this mean now for your relationship with your friends?

Take a deep breath, because everything will be totally fine.

Sure, it can be crazy at first when two of your best friends start dating, but here are seven ways you can cope.

1. Know You're Not A Third Wheel

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You may start to feel like a third wheel when you all hang out together. What used to be normal hangs are now two people cuddling up and you chilling on the other side of the table.

Sure, it's awkward AF, but try not to feel like a complete outcast.

Obviously, it's easier said than done, but remember how you used to act before they became a couple. Pretty soon, the awkward third wheel feelings will go away, and you'll adjust to this new way of hanging.

2. Bring Another Friend To Hang Out

If you're not about the third wheel feels, invite another friend to join you.

When you know you're going to be hanging out with just the two of them, make sure to include a fourth person. There's no shame in wanting to even it out.

This could also be a perfect time to make your other friendships stronger.

3. Try To Not Take Sides When They Fight

Couples fight. Usually, when it's your friend, you take their side no matter what.

When you have two best friends fighting, it's impossible to take a side. Instead of immediately being in one person's corner, listen to both of them.

You don't have to choose who you agree with in the fight; keep that to yourself. Most of the time, your friends will just be looking for someone to vent to.

4. Understand They Need Their Alone Time

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I know you guys used to be the three amigos, and you want to spend time with them always, but remember they're a couple now.

Don't feel like you're being excluded from the party. They just need their couple time, just like you sometimes need your alone time.

5. Speak Up When You Feel Like They're Drifting Away

I've lost a few friends when they got into a relationship. They're wrapped up in love and unaware they're not spending as much time with you.

It's hard and even harder when it's two of your best friends.

If you feel a little neglected because they're in a relationship now, don't feel bad about speaking up. Even just a reminder that you miss them and want to hang out is nice.

They probably miss you, too.

6. Don't Get Too Invested

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When two of your besties start dating, you may immediately think it's the most magical thing in the world. You might get so excited, you legit start planning a wedding.

Slow down, cowboy.

Don't get too invested in this relationship. It may sound like a dream come true for now, but just know a lot of couples don't work out.

7. Be Supportive

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Your besties always need your love and support, and now is no exception to the rule. Sometimes how you feel about the relationship really affects how your friends feel, too.

If they feel like you're not supportive, it could hurt them. You want to seem as positive as possible, even if you're cautious about the whole thing.

Everyone will feel so much better once you give them your genuine blessings.