Why It's My Choice To Be 27 And A Virgin
I'm a 27-year-old virgin.
That used to be so difficult for me to admit, but lately, I've felt freer to be who I am.
Now, I'm completely comfortable admitting it.
Yes, I know it's not the norm in society today to be my age and inexperienced, but despite people telling me everyone is having sex nowadays, I know I'm not alone.
I grew up kind of distancing myself from being sexual. I valued being "pure," but it wasn't even really a religious thing at all.
This is why it's completely my choice to be a virgin at 27.
Sex is a grown-up thing.
When I was younger, sex was the ultimate grown-up thing to do. I viewed it as having the potential to change me.
On the dance team in high school, whenever I was asked to do a “sexual move,” like a body roll or pelvic thrust, I would instead do the most PG-rated version of those dance moves.
I wanted to be innocent. The longer I stayed pure and non-sexual, the longer I remained a kid.
I'm more a friend than a lover.
This reason had more to do with circumstance.
I never really dated in high school, or in college. I believe it probably also has something to do with my Peter Pan complex, because dating was in the realm of “growing up.” That's not to say I wouldn't have dated someone, had the opportunity come along.
It just never did.
I probably put out too much of a neutral vibe. So, I was never seen as anything more than just a friend... which I'm 100 percent OK with.
I want major life events to be special.
I don't want to sleep with someone to get it over with, or have sex with someone I'm just casually seeing.
When I have sex for the first time, I want to be in a committed relationship. It's just how I roll; that person has to be very important to me.
I don't want to half-ass any major events in my life. Everything has to have some significance, or be incredibly special.
I know the first time will probably be bad, so I want to pick the right person.
I'm almost 100 percent sure I will be kind of terrible and awkward my first time. I think most people are… right?
I believe it's better to be not-so-good with someone who cares and understands, than with someone I barely know.
Everyone else has probably had some experience in bed, so they know how to do it right for them. I have absolutely no experience whatsoever, which is why I need a patient partner who totally gets it.
I've waited this long, and I'm willing to keep waiting for that right someone to walk into my life.
Heck, maybe I'll be a virgin my entire life, and I'm OK with that. It makes me a unicorn -- someone rare and unique.