Stop Worrying About What Guys Find Attractive
If you think worrying about what guys find attractive is going to lead you to your soulmate, hate to break it to you girl, but you're wrong.
Picking a partner based on whether they approve of your physical attributes is only going to lead you to an asshole who has alllll the wrong priorities.
Fortunately for humans, we aren't like other animals that mate based on our plumage or physical size and stature. We have the luxury of mating for companionship, loyalty, a life of laughter and trust.
Putting your energy into changing your physical appearance for someone else and NOT because you're doing what makes you feel confident and happy (there's a difference) is a giant waste of time and ultimately, has you barking up all the wrong trees.
Here is why it won't help you find love.
You want someone who likes you for you, not your looks.
This should be a no brainer.
Blame it on the years and years of subliminal messages thrusted upon women that tell us we are only worth the sum of our physical attributes, but at the end of the day, we shouldn't want to be with someone who values our physical appearance over our character.
Trust me when I say the right guy is someone that will love you for your wit, humor, personality and intelligence and put these attributes ABOVE the size of your waist or the length of your hair.
If you end up with someone who only loves you for your wrinkle-free face and tiny hands or something, you best believe that romance is going to run dry as you age and grow together over time.
Never forget that we're all just human plunging into old age, rotting slowly from the inside out.
I know, dreamy.
Not everyone is attracted to the same thing.
Again, it would be easy to point to women in media and make a pretty long list of all the things they all have in common (i.e. this kind of face, this certain body type, these kinds of lips, that size of boobs).
However, it is important to recognize that just like most women on the planet do not look like Megan Fox, most guys on the planet aren't dating a Megan Fox look-alike either.
Never forget that we're all just humans plunging into old age, rotting slowly from the inside out.
Men are not a one-size-fits-all, just like women aren't a one-size-fits-all.
For example, while some people may love tattoos because they exemplify things like risk, passion and art, others might be turned off because they feel it demonstrates impulse, immaturity or a "bad girl/bad boy" vibe.
We have to give gentlemen SOME credit that they aren't so easily brainwashed into thinking there is only a limited number of attractive features a woman could have, when in fact, there are literally ENDLESS ways a person can be attractive.
It is not your job to adhere to someone else's expectations.
We've all seen a "Men Find These Things Ugly About Women" lists. We DO have access to the internet, after all.
Well, here's a novel idea: You weren't put on this planet to please men.
There is an amazing quote I saw on Instagram by a woman named Erin McKean that sums it up perfectly. She said,
You don't have to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spourse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female.
SING IT, SISTER.
The idea that our value comes from how attractive we are is only keeping us from finding someone who actually values us for the right reasons.
Stay true to yourself, and trust me, there is someone for everyone. The ways in which you are beautiful are endless and go WAY beyond the shape of your jawline.
Shine bright, live happy and you'll attract the right person for you in no time.