Tell me if this sounds familiar: There you are, hanging out with your partner, just minding your own business when they begin giving you "the look.” You know what this means — they're hoping for a little quality naked time. That's sweet. Everyone wants to know they're desirable, but here's the problem: You are so not in the mood. You could give them the brush off, but you love them and and want to make them happy. So you think, "why the hell not?" It's in moments like these when you need to know how to get yourself wet fast.
Just because you aren't feeling it right this second doesn't mean you can't get there quickly, if you know what to do. It's all about knowing your body and what turns you on. So before you find yourself in this situation, do some pre-gaming to learn how to touch yourself and what kinds of things get your number one sex organ fired up — I'm talking about your brain.
Once you're armed with this knowledge, you'll be ready to get yourself going anytime, anywhere... well, not anywhere. I mean, no one wants to be posting bail over it. But you know what I mean.
Here is my five-step guaranteed plan for getting turned on five minutes or less.
1. Get Your Mind Right
We're all busy people with a million things on our minds. Sometimes, getting in the mood is just about taking a beat, setting aside distractions, and getting into a sexy headspace. Relax, take a few deep breaths, and focus on things that turn you on. Is it a memory from a particularly hot past encounter? Is it a sex scene from a movie? Or your favorite fantasy? Take a few minutes to get the mental juices flowing… and your body will follow.
2. Keep Spank Bank Materials Handy
Want to speed things along? Seek out the things that stimulate you. What has turned you on in the past? Was it reading erotic stories, particular scenes in movies, a sexy playlist? Don't just visualize it; keep whatever gets you going keep it on hand, so that when the spirit moves your partner, you have a leg up on helping you get a leg over. Turns out, your smartphone may actually be the best sex toy you have.
3. Get Into Your Body
Girl, get out of your head! Start experiencing the sensuality of your body. Starting with your head and working slowly down your body, begin focusing on what your body is feeling. Take slow deep breaths and become hyper aware of sensations, particularly in your erogenous zones. Imagine what it feels like when your partner touches them and, before you know it, you'll be turned on and hungry for that touch.
4. Break Out The Heavy Artillery
If you had to put a nail through a board, would you do it with your fist? If you had to paint a wall, would you just throw the paint at it? No, of course not. There are tools for those jobs, and you wouldn't hesitate to break them out. Same goes for getting turned on, so don't be afraid to use the right tool for the job. Spend a few minutes warming up with your favorite sex toy, and you'll be wet and ready to roll in no time.
5. There's Aways Lube
Want the ultimate shortcut to getting wet? It's called lube. There's no shame in it. Sometimes you just need a little help to prime the pump. Dry stimulation can be really unpleasant and become a very unsexy Catch-22. So, if you're in a hurry to get things going ASAP, give your body a little helpful hand (yes, pun intended) to kickstart your own lubrication.
That's it, folks. Go forth and get your groove on.
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