Before I dive into my thesis of this post, though, let me give you some background on what being a guest at the VMAs is like when you're not actually a celebrity.
First of all, it rocks. You get free five-star meals, and you also get free top-shelf liquor in a sippy cup. Because you're classy AF.
Once you've got your yummy eats and your Grey Goose and grapefruit juice, you head to your seats, which surround all of the celebrities who are seated in an elevated circle in the center of the venue. that's what.
This is what it looked like from my seat:
Basically, every famous person you've ever hoped to meet was sitting somewhere inside of that purple circle.
When I wasn't watching the INCREDIBLE performances, I was sipping on my sippy cup, studying the celebrities in their cage as they interacted with each other.
We all know that they are in no way, shape or form dating anymore. But each of them were individually bringing a similar energy to the VMA celeb social scene.
They were both so dang FRIENDLY.
Amber got there a little earlier than Kanye, and I don't think there was one person who walked into the celebrity section who didn't stop to say hi to her. Actually, there was one person who didn't say hi: Desiigner.
How do I know that? Because I watched Amber go out of her way to get up, walk over and say hi to him, and then introduce herself to his date.
Whenever any other celeb wandered around awkwardly or didn't talk to anyone, I noticed that they'd eventually make their way toward Amber Rose and she'd make them feel right at home.
And then, there was Kanye.
He got there a little later, so, unlike Amber, he wasn't already sitting when most people arrived. Obviously, this made it difficult for people to go out of their way to say hi to him when he was sitting in the front.
But that wasn't an issue for Kanye. The guy intentionally made his rounds among the famous faces. He greeted nearly everyone in his section with a big bear hug and a smile.
And people loved him right back.
When Rihanna came on for one of her many performances and nobody stood up, Kanye rose, faced the rest of the celebs and signaled with his hands that they all join him. Everyone, including Amber, immediately stood up.
He responded with such an enthusiastic thumbs up, it even made me feel like one million bucks — and I was sitting hundreds of feet away.
Not only are Amber and Kanye both SO FRIENDLY, they go out of their way to make sure everyone else is being sociable and nice. I loved them.
Amber and Kanye are both SO FRIENDLY and go out of their way to make sure everyone else is having fun.
Although, it wasn't long before I started thinking about their romantic history.
I spent about half of the show watching them both be so welcoming, fun, and, honestly, I felt kind of sad that they didn't end up together.
Both so confident and cool, they were too similar to not be together. They just made sense.
Kanye would enthusiastically talk about something with a huge smile on his face and his arm wrapped around his wife. Kim would stare at him intently, as if he were the most interesting man alive. He'd look back at her like he had scored the most beautiful woman on the planet.
Meanwhile, Amber's date was a guy who had the same haircut as her (I WISH I had a picture of him, you guys, but my zoom on my phone was simply not doing him justice).
She'd go around and do her thing, saying hi to everyone and casually chatting with the mega stars who were clearly love her. Her date just sat back, totally relaxed and did his own thing while Amber did hers.
He gave her the space to be Amber. But when he looked at her, you could tell he was so proud of the friendly, awesome woman he was with.
That's when I got it.
I have a tendency to fall for guys who are really similar to myself, but maybe I've had it wrong this entire time.
Maybe it's better to be with someone who complements who you are — someone who can just sit back, smile and adore you for how wonderfully different you are from them. They don't try to compete with you or your shine, and you don't feel threatened by theirs either.
Yeah, that sounds kind of nice.
This is my new theory for why Kanye and Amber never worked out. And why, when they say opposites attract, it's not a bad thing, but a very necessary key to a relationship's success.