Your Enneagram type says a lot about not only how you behave in relationships, but also why you act that way. Conversely, your love language says a lot about what you needin your relationships. And as it turns out, your Enneagram type and love language are actually interconnected. That means that if you know your Enneagram number, you can easily figure out what your love language is, too.
Here's how it works. The Enneagram system, which emphasizes the motivations that guide your behavior, consists of nine types. These types are organized into three centers: The Instinctive Center (types One, Eight, and Nine), the Feeling Center (types Two, Three, and Four), and the Thinking Center (types Five, Six, and Seven). Each center is associated with a core emotional response — anger for the Instinctive group, shame for the Feeling group, and fear for the Thinking group. This doesn't mean that's the only emotion they feel, of course, but once you understand where each type's center lies, you'll start to get a stronger grasp on what types of relationships they thrive in. The love languages, meanwhile, describe five different ways of giving and receiving love: physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, and gifts.
So, how do they connect? Well, a person's love language makes a lot of sense when you consider that it's also how they cope with their core emotion. For example, a Thinking Enneagram type may need words of reassurance to soothe their fear, while an Instinctive type might need physical affection to calm their reactivity.
The bottom line is, you can totally figure out what your love language is based on your Enneagram number. Here's what you need to know about how the two systems intersect for each type.