The 2019 Love Lesson You Need To Unlearn, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Any good maximalist has rolled their eyes at Coco Chanel's famous quote about taking at least one accessory off before leaving the house. "Less is more" is not for everyone. Yet, in life and in love, sometimes the most important lessons are that of unlearning, of taking someone off before you leave the house. The process of unlearning, of discarding skills or ideas that no longer serve you is no easy task. You can reread old diaries, old texts, old Tinder conversations trying to map your mind on love, hunting for the 2019 love lesson you need to unlearn, and you still may be wondering, what problems am I creating for myself? And how the f*ck do I stop doing that?

Getting out of your own way takes self-awareness, reflection, and sometimes looking at your problems from above. Like, from-the-constellations-above. I reached out to the amazing astrologer Cindy Mckean about the love lessons each sign needs to unlearn in 2019.

Of course, astrology isn't a life sentence — your future may hold all sorts of things nothing and no one could have ever predicted. Yet, from embracing imperfection to letting someone take care of you for a change, Mckean's lessons of unlearning are short but sage, and really hit home.

Aries (March 21–April 19)

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Although it's tied to enthusiasm, Aries needs to unlearn impatience, as it can snuff out even the most enthusiastic around you.

Taurus (April 20–May 20)

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The different facets of stubbornness you exhibit. Loyalty and determination are adorable, but the love lesson to to unlearn involves no longer holding a grudge.

Gemini (May 21–June 20)

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While it's flattering for whatever news you spread like a fire, you have to unlearn to listen to and spread gossip.

Cancer (June 21–July 22)

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Sensitivity is part of who you are, but too much of the same thing may need a reduction. Being too attached too soon is a love lesson to unlearn.

Leo (July 23–Aug. 22)

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Being all about love, the one love lesson for Leo to unlearn is ego growth; it's not all about you all the time.

Virgo (Aug. 23–Sept. 22)

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The 2019 love lesson for Virgo to unlearn is about being too uptight, as it can change the mood of your relationship.

Libra (Sept. 23–Oct. 22)

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Love and Libra are synonymous but the one love lesson you need to unlearn is overindulgence.

Scorpio (Oct. 23–Nov. 21)

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With a seeming amount of infinite patience, the 2019 love lesson to unlearn is how you always make sure you're not vulnerable. Showing that side earlier may help that special someone relate to you more.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22–Dec. 21)

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The 2019 love lesson to unlearn is the freedom you take at the expense of your partner.

Capricorn (Dec. 22–Jan. 19)

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The love lesson you need to unlearn is about structure. Love flows naturally, it isn't built.

Aquarius (Jan. 20–Feb. 18)

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The love lesson you need to unlearn in 2019 is emotional detachment. Though it's 'clean' showing a little reaction goes a long way.

Pisces (Feb. 19–March 20)

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The love lesson you need to unlearn is sacrifice. While it's admirable, sometimes it's better to stand strong with what you have than sacrifice something precious for a wish.

Of course, what the stars can't tell you is what's in your heart. If you know something is the right move for you, 2019 is the time to do it. May 2019 be a year of love, truth, and feeling strong and supported, in everything you learn and unlearn.