Getting over someone after a breakup can be incredibly difficult, especially when you had no idea it was coming. In some relationships, you know when a breakup is on the horizon, so when it finally happens it may be a little easier to digest because it wasn't completely unexpected. But when a relationship comes to an end abruptly and without warning, letting go is often even harder. Figuring out how to get over someone who blindsided you with a breakup can be rough, so I reached out to an expert to learn about the best way to let go and move on.
It's completely normal to feel lost, confused, and sad when your partner springs a breakup on you out of nowhere. You didn't think you were having any problems, and things seemed peachy as ever! So, what could possibly make someone want out so suddenly? Sometimes, there may be a lot going through someone's head that they themselves might not even be able to explain. Before you can begin to heal, you should take some time to process what happened. "When you’re shocked by a breakup, part of the trauma is you're missing the intel that was there the whole time," April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert, tells Elite Daily. "You didn’t see it, and you let yourself fall for them."
After the shock of the sudden breakup subsides a bit, you may begin to "feel that the world is falling apart," Céline Sauvet, a French certified dating and relationship coach, tells Elite Daily. "It’s like an earthquake shaking up your life. You can feel abandoned by the universe, and this fragility can have effects on other areas of your life, such as sleep problems, stress, food disorders, etc." And as healthy as it may be to wallow in your pain, eventually you have to move on. Here are four ways to start doing just that.