Here's How To Reject Someone Nicely, According To 10 Women Who Have Done It

I am a huge people-pleaser. It's taken some time for me to accept it and say it out loud but it's true. I simply hate hurting people's feelings and would go to pretty much any length to avoid doing so. Needless to say, this little issue of mine made dating very difficult. In particular, figuring out how to reject someone nicely was always a struggle for me. And, if I'm being totally honest, I don't think I ever truly mastered it.

Unfortunately, when I was single, I never really had anyone to teach me how to let someone down kindly. Luckily, if you're a single person struggling with this currently, I've got some very helpful tips to share. In a recent Reddit AskWomen thread, ladies shared their go-to methods for rejecting people politely — and they're incredible.

Keep It Super Simple

"Thanks, I'm flattered but not interested/available."


You Don't Own Them An Explanation

Just tell them you're not interested. You don't have to get into it any more than that. It's not harsh, it's just direct. Rejection sucks no matter how much you sugar coated so you may as well be clear.
"No thank you, I'm not interested."


Keep Things General

don’t quote personal traits as reasons for rejection. it is seen as a personal attack. you can suggest that you are incompatible instead


Be As Clear As Possible

I think this line works, saves face for everyone, is super clear, and gets the message across
"I'm sorry, I just didn't feel a connection."


Remember That, If They Push Further, They're Acting Rude — You Aren't

You just say something like, "Sorry, I'm not interested." or "No." If you want to be extra gentle about it, you can say something like, "I'm flattered, but not interested.", "No, thank you.", or "Thank you for asking, but I'm not interested." If they push for anything beyond that, they are the ones being rude.


Tell Them You're Not Interested

"Sorry, not interested."
It is best to be as honest and blunt as possible. I find that sugarcoating it too much (ex "I'm just not into a relationship right now") won't give the guy the right message and he is more likely to sit around and wait for you to be ready. Clear communication is best. You also don't need to give a reason, though. Just say "not interested". If he pushes for a reason, repeat the statement and cut off communication.


Accept The Fact That You're Going To Hurt Them

No matter what you tell, he's going to feel upset. All you can do is reduce the impact it has on him by emphasising why you decided to leave him, and if it's his fault, tell him about it so he can better himself and move on.
The more you sugar coat it, the longer it will hurt him. Get straight with your intention to speak with him and leave him with a positive note. That's all you can do. What he does next is up to him and him only.


Just Simply Say "No."

"No thank you."
You don't need to explain yourself. You don't need to defend yourself.
If he presses about reasons, tell him you're not feeling it, and that that won't change.
If he presses more after that, he's a rude jerk, and you can stop being nice to him.


Go With The Golden Rule And Treat Them The Way You'd Like To Be Treated

Maybe just reject them the way you'd prefer to be rejected when you're doing the asking, Golden Rule-style.


Tell Them You Have No Chemistry

You're really great, but I don't feel we have chemistry.


Now go forth and reject your suitors swiftly and kindly!

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