To spare you the tears (and the years of therapy), let's just say that my "coming out" experience was
nothing like I had expected. Though some of my friends and family tried to be there for me, no one really had the tools to make me feel safe and validated. So, no matter where you're at in your queer journey, if you don't feel supported after coming out, I get it. I, like, really get it. Luckily, you can turn to invaluable resources after coming out.
Let's get one thing straight:
Though "coming out" can feel super lonely for some, you are a flawless angel, and you are not alone. From law centers and social justice non-profits to internet communities, there are tons of queer organizations and communities out there for you; you just need to know where to look. The queer community is as versatile as it is powerful. Maybe you need help changing your name or feeling safe in your workspace. Perhaps you're looking for educational pamphlets to give your friends and family. Whatever the case, queer resources span from political advocacy to religious centers to straight-up social gatherings.
And if you're
looking to connect with more queer people or you'd like to read some literature about coming out, check out these 17 queer communities and organizations. Courtesy of Griffin Wynne The Trevor Project is an amazing queer org that specializes in crisis intervention and suicide prevention for queer people under 25. In addition to their incredible activism (including their new coming out handbook!), they have a number of resources for younger queer people, including TrevorSpace, an affirming international community queer people ages 13 to 24. Just like Facebook, you can join different groups, "friend" and follow others, create "events," and post your own statuses. You can even set a profile picture and cover photo. Mine is Kyle Richards and Chandler Bing taking a Cosmo quiz!
Described on its website as, "A lo-fi, text-based dating and social app for LGBTQ,
based on old-school newspaper personals" PERSONALS is an Instagram-based community for LGBTQ people, gender-nonconforming and non-binary babes, and lesbians. If you've always been considered an "old soul," but you still kind of love Instagram (@ me), PERSONALS may be just what you're looking for. Though many of the posts are romantic, tons are from people looking to find queer friends and community near them, too.
The queer glow-up is real y'all. If you're looking for community or encouragement, the
It Gets Better Project, is a non-profit queer org dedicated to uplifting, empowering, and connecting queer youth. Once solely a social media campaign ( #itgetsbetter), the project is now a with online and IRL programming, a network of international affiliates, and links to tons of community-based service providers. huge multi-media platform
I'm not crying — you're crying! (I am very much crying.)
Free Mom Hugs is a non-profit organization run by queer-affirming parents and allies so that all queer people can feel loved and accepted by parental figures. If you've been kicked out of your home, are looking for financial assistance, clothing, help changing your name, or just need a hug from a mom, consider Free Mom Hugs extra parents who want to help you along the way. 05
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Transgender Law Center (TLC)
The Sylvia Rivera Law Project (SRLP)
Marsha P. Johnson Institute (MPJI)
The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA)
The Religious Institute
Muslim Alliance for Sexual and Gender Diversity
The "Not All Like That” (NALT) Christians Project
“Not All Like That” (NALT) Christians Project is a community of queer-identifying and queer-affirming Christians who share videos of themselves talking about why they support queer rights and their own experiences being queer and Christian. They have a Facebook group and resources to host a "NALT" event at your own church or faith community.
Started in 1996,
Keshet is a national organization working for LGBTQ equality and inclusion in all parts of Jewish life, from synagogues, and Hebrew schools to other communities. Leading a number of queer-rights campaigns and hosting all sorts of queer-friendly events (from text studies and holiday celebrations to fun outings), Keshet works to empower and connect LGBTQ Jewish people and their friends and family.
My hippie aunt Cathy told me about
Vine & Fig (we email weekly about queer Catholic stuff), and I literally talk about it all the time. It's an online space for queer Catholics to connect, affirm, and learn from each other's experiences. You can join the "community" (there's a Slack channel and different online groups), and you check out their blogs, podcasts, and tons of resources on their website. 16
Parents, Families/Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)
Parents, Families/Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) was one of the first organizations in the U.S. for queer people and their families and allies. As their website reads, "PFLAG is committed to creating a world where diversity is celebrated, and all people are respected, valued, and affirmed." With over 400 chapters and 200,000 members, PFLAG spans urban centers, rural areas, and all other places across the country. You can find a chapter near you or even apply to start your own. FYI, their website is literally like gay Google, and you can find all sorts of resources, local services, and international connections. 17
The Human Rights Campaign