Do you ever feel like you're constantly comparing yourself to other people? On social media, in your classes, at work, or even within your own family. I'm not sure what we expect the ~winner~ to receive or if we even know what it would take to win. We just want to be viable competitors in the race. Like, have you ever found yourself comparing how often you have sex among your friend group? This conversation is straight out of an episode of How I Met Your Mother, New Girl, or even Sex and the City, which should be reason enough to ditch it from your routine.
Real life is much more complicated. What works for you (sexually or otherwise) might not necessarily work for your Barney Stinson-like friend. You should never have to justify your decision to be celibate or to jump everything that moves. It's simple, really — your body, your choices.
I know from being in long-term relationships myself that people have more discretion when asking this question of someone in a committed relationship. For some reason, only then does asking someone how often they have sex and worse, commenting on it become a more private, intimate issue.
Single women, on the other hand, aren't as lucky. It's basically the Madonna-whore complex all over again. If a woman embraces her sexual freedom and enjoys being intimate with multiple partners, well, she's Samantha Jones in Sex and the City.
Of course, if she remains celibate while she's single, she's more like Charlotte, a so-called prude. Don't get me wrong. I love both of these characters but they're staged as polar opposites for a reason — to make you believe that you should be one or the other. The truth is, you can be a Samantha, or a Charlotte, or a Carrie, or a Miranda (yasss, Cynthia Nixon), but it's always best to be yourself.
Live your best sex life on your own terms, just like these seven single women who reveal how often they have sex and why.