Being a bridesmaid can be a really fun experience, but it can easily be just as stressful — not to mention, expensive. You might be asked to help with the bachelorette party, the bridal shower, and the day of the wedding might come with its own set of duties. You want to be there for your friend, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with every whim and desire they express. In fact, hearing stories of intense bride requests, straight from real bridesmaids themselves, will remind you how out of control weddings can actually get.
Viral stories about brides who get a little stressed out with wedding planning are just about everywhere these days. There's so much pressure on this one wedding day to be the "best day of their life," that it's no wonder they're so stressed out about it. And stress, as you probably already know, can cause folks to do things they otherwise wouldn't, like expecting an old friend to do your wedding makeup for free, or giving your wedding guests a long list of rules to abide by. Whatever the case, there is no shortage of stories about brides who've let wedding-planning stress get to their heads. Of course, that's not to say all brides reach this level of absurdity, but the following stories from bridesmaids who have dealt with their fair share of demanding brides take this stress to a whole new level.
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So Much Hair Drama!
My mom was the bride, she didn't have bridesmaids but I (her daughter) was going to walk her down the aisle.
I've had purple or blue hair for quite some time, and I checked almost a year in advance with my mom that it would be okay for my hair to be blue for the wedding. Checked again every few months, every time I was told to stop insinuating that she was a bridezilla, of course my hair was fine.
Two weeks before the wedding, my own mother threatened to dis-invite me from the wedding if I didn't fix my hair. So I went and got it done, came home and my mother told me I was shallow for changing my hair to keep up appearances. Sigh. Getting it re-dyed back to blonde cost me over $300.
I was the maid-of-honor. I helped plan the whole wedding, I went to all the awkward parties with family members I had never met. I was close with the bride and groom, not their families. The whole time we were planning she kept talking about being a bridezilla like it was an inevitable phase she would go through. Ffw all the way to the end. She suddenly decided that her sister needs to be the only one involved, but I can still be the maid of honor. She calls me the day of the bridal shower and asks why I wasn't there and insists she told me the date. She hadn't. She fires me on the spot and I don't talk to her again until a few days before the wedding. She tells me that I can still come but she had asked one of her husband's ex girlfriends, someone she didn't know to be her new maid of honor. Day before the wedding she asks me to be the usher. Says I can show people to their seats, the gift table, the bathroom. I didn't attend the wedding.
I was in a wedding where the bride planned two separate bachelorette weekends for herself and got mad at anyone who couldn’t/wouldn’t spend two 3-day weekends at ~$500/each away from their husbands/kids/jobs.
The week leading up to the wedding the temp for the big day was forecast to be a high of 10*F (February wedding, NE US). Bride was insisting on outdoor photos without coats “because we can’t hide the dresses!” Everyone, including the photographer, tells her hell no. Day of she pitches a fit when we refused to do more than one quick photo.
Afterwards, she stopped talking to 75% of the bridal party because of their refusal to accommodate her outrageous demands. To this day, years later, she still complains about how her bridesmaids ruined her wedding.
There were a lot of moments. One of my favorites was her bachelorette party was the same weekend as my birthday. We weren’t allowed to do anything for my birthday at all on the trip. Not even mention it. On my actual birthday, some of my friends got some balloons and a little cake from the hotel. They tried to keep it a secret but Bridezilla came in the room, saw everything, didn’t say a word and walked out. She was p*ssed because our friends wanted to do something small for me on my actual birthday.
It was fitting that the wedding ended in huge family drama. I definitely stopped talking to her after the wedding was over.
Weddings are already stressful enough, but when you add in a bride who keeps making intense requests, it can make being a bridesmaid almost unbearable. But at least they got good stories out of it?!