Why Failure Is Actually Way More Beneficial To Your Future Than Success

by Jenn Ryan

Failure is something millennials just aren't equipped to deal with.

The problem with our lack of ability to handle failure in life is that it will make success that much harder to achieve. When you uncover all the layers of embarrassment, ruin and depression, failure is actually a pretty magical thing.

Failure teaches you in ways success can't. It shapes you as a person. It makes you resilient. If we can cultivate a stronger relationship with failure, we can make success that much closer.

While success will mean different things to different people, some of the most successful people have failed time and time again to be the awesome people they are today. Here are the ways failure can make us stronger and more successful, if we let it.

1. Failure teaches you more than success ever could.

Failure means that you actually tried.

You put forth the effort to do something worthwhile. You tried in the best way you knew how. It didn't work out -- so what? Look at what you've gained.

Trying and failing have become two of your most important teachers. They can teach you how to walk the path of success. Failure encourages better thinking. It forces you to look back and ask, why didn't that work? What went wrong?

When you try, you learn. When you fail, you learn even more. Keep trying, and keep failing. You will soon become a very educated student of life.

2. Failure builds you up.

Failure can tear you down. It can make you feel horrible about yourself and about life. It can also build you up in ways you never thought possible if you let it.

First, failure allows you the opportunity to acknowledge and take responsibility for your mistakes. Take responsibility for the part you played in your failure. Stare your monetary losses in the face without cringing. Acknowledge what happened and why you failed.

Maybe you don't know why you failed—but if you learn more about what happened and try to figure it out, you just might be surprised at how much you learn.

Failure makes you a humbler person. It builds character. It can make you stronger and more honest with yourself. It can also help you to trust yourself more when making future decisions and future attempts.

Failure doesn't do any of these things if we don't let it. Learn from it. Allow it to shape you. Grow from it and move on!

3. Success after failure makes you realize just how capable you are.

Often, we don't know what we're capable of until we try. When you try and fail, despite the failure, you realize just how amazing you truly are and how much you can accomplish.

Failure also builds resilience. Developing a thick skin to tackle life will serve you well. You can do more of what you want and less of what other people think you should do. It allows you to go after your dreams and not let anything get in the way of what you want.

Failing is an art, and it can inspire you if you let it. It can also inspire others around you.

4. Failure is always better than regret.

I don't know if there's anything worse in life than regrets. Failing is a better alternative to regretting. Would you regret not knowing what would've happened if you tried to follow your dreams, or would you rather learn and grow and become successful through failing on your way to the top?

At least with the failure option, you are that much closer to achieving your goal.

Failure also gives you true confidence rather than false confidence. Successes that are easy often leave lots of room for failure—because the success has made you feel that nothing could go wrong. Failure is a powerful tool for understanding and being even more successful.

Regrets don't provide opportunities. Failures do. Appreciate your opportunities, even if they're small. Make every step count. 

Acknowledge your mistakes. Learn what went wrong. Become stronger, more resilient and wiser. Never stop trying. You will regret not trying much more than you will failure!