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How Men Play An Important Role In Feminism


Twenty-year-old Tori Jenkins had just arrived to a pool with her fiancé, Tyler Newman, and five of their friends when Jenkins says she was chastised for her pink, one-piece bathing suit.

After only a few minutes of being at the pool in their Knoxville, Tennessee apartment complex, she was told that the swimsuit was "inappropriate" and that she "needed to leave or cover up with a pair of shorts," by someone working at the pool, according to a Facebook post written by Newman.

When Jenkins went to talk with the leasing consultant on duty in the Smoky Crossing Apartments office, following the incident, Newman claims the leasing consultant made Jenkins pose for pictures, then instructed her to look in the mirror at her body, and then allegedly told Jenkins she would not want her around her own kids.

Elite Daily reached out for a comment from the leasing consultant, and was referred to a spokesperson for Smoky Crossing Apartments.

In the Facebook post, Newman claimed that Jenkins explained that her curvier body shape automatically causes her clothing to fit differently, but the leasing consultant, according to Newman's claims, was seemingly unconcerned.

Newman wrote that the leasing consultant allegedly said,

A spokesperson from Smoky Crossing apartments shared the following statement with Elite Daily via email, refuting this claim.

The statement reads:

Jenkins shared her own Facebook post, thanking people online who supported her and shared encouraging messages.

She wrote,

Unfortunately, this incident follows a long, sad line of women and girls all over the country who have been singled out for their attire, due to concern over how people (usually men and boys) will react to what they are wearing.

Newman also expressed his frustration with what his fiancée's experience says about body shaming and male privilege.

He wrote,

Newman shared a Facebook Live video where he discussed how incidents like this contribute to rape culture, which too often makes it a woman's responsibility to keep men from violating her, instead of teaching men to not be predators.

Jenkins' And Newman's Response Is What We Need To See More Of In The Feminism Fight

Too often, we see women fighting against discrimination they experience all alone, making the feminist movement feel like something women carry by themselves, while men either directly denounce it (looking at you, "meninists") or simply go silent.

Jenkins bravely standing up for herself against what she felt was a slut-shaming comment made by the leasing consultant and her fiancé calling out the apartment complex online are a perfect show of what the feminism movement is supposed to look like.

Feminism, by definition, is not just for women; it's a movement for the equality of the sexes that men should take part in as well.

Feminism Is Often Portrayed As An "Us Vs. Them" Struggle

Only 10 percent of men identified themselves as a strong feminists in a 2016 survey conducted by The Washington Post and the Kaiser Family Foundation. Only 23 percent identified as feminists at all. Fifty percent of the men in the survey specifically considered themselves "not a feminist."

These findings coincide with the "bro culture" we witness every day, the one signified by routine victim blaming, a "bros before hoes" mentality, blurred consent lines, rape jokes, and zero accountability.

We know of a few prominent self-identifying male feminists, like John Legend, Channing Tatum, and Will Smith, but part of the adoration we feel for these men is amplified by the fact that men standing up for women's rights is, unfortunately, not a societal norm.

These men serve as a breath of fresh air in a world where men often benefit from a privilege that disadvantages women, yet don't call it out.

Feminism needs men as much as it needs women. We need to see more men holding each other accountable, calling things out, and standing up for women when they are in oppressive situations.

Women and men standing together to fight against slut-shaming, victim-blaming, and other acts of misogyny is what will really transform our culture and make this world a more physically and emotionally safe place for women.