Channing Tatum's Open Letter To Jenna Dewan And Daughter
Channing Tatum, be my husband and also my dad.
The stupid beautiful and also incredibly personable actor/dancer/jawline-extraordinaire was recently given the opportunity to write an open letter to women in Cosmopolitan, and decided to speak directly to his daughter, Everly.
His message is oh-so-sweet, oh-so-thoughtful and oh-so-sob-worthy.
Covering everything from how to approach sexuality, meeting her mother Jenna and finding true love, Channing hits some serious fatherly home runs.
He opens by picturing Everly reading this article someday, and what he hopes she takes away from it:
In honor of the launch of Magic Mike Live in Las Vegas, my friends at Cosmo generously invited me to write something for you. The more I thought about this, the more I thought about my daughter reading this article someday. I pictured her in her late teens or early 20s, hoping to explore and discover her sexuality and dreaming about finding true love. I tried to imagine the things I'd want her to read that would help her understand men and sex and partnership better, and at that moment, I realized a strange thing. I don't want her looking to the outside world for answers. My highest hope for her is just that she has the fearlessness to always be her authentic self, no matter what she thinks men want her to be.
He talks about his love story with Jenna, and how her confidence in knowing what she wanted helped him find confidence in love too.
I thought about when I first met Jenna. I knew our connection was really powerful, but I wasn't sure what our relationship was going to be. Then one day, Jenna just blurted out that she knew exactly what she wanted in life and she didn't have to look for it anymore because it was me. She had no idea what I'd say or how I'd react, but that was her truth. I remember feeling this incredible rush — it was the sexiest thing she'd ever done for me. I felt strength, because in that moment, she had accepted every part of me, the good and the bad. And I knew she wasn't auditioning me or hoping I'd meet some set of expectations. That radical authenticity of hers was what made me fall head over heels in love. Before I experienced it, I wouldn't have known how to ask for it. Now I know it's what I was always craving. And that's what I want for my daughter — to be expectation-less with her love and not allow preconceived standards to affect her, to ask herself what she wants and feel empowered enough to act on it.
He says his one wish is for women everywhere to know they are "enough."
We all know that every one of us is different and has a unique road map to our heart. We learn how to navigate it by leaping into love with both feet and giving our full selves without expecting anything in return. So I guess if there's one thing that I think men wish women knew, it's just that they alone are enough. When more women start to truly feel this power in themselves, the world will become so magical, it makes my head hurt.
He concludes with how hopeful he is about his daughter growing up in a time where gender roles are fluid.
We live in a society that has trained men and women to play certain kinds of roles for a long time, and the beauty of this amazing moment we're living in is that we're finally starting to break free from those roles. Women, especially, are realizing that they no longer have to conform to certain standards of social and sexual behavior, and this changes what they need from men and the role of men in general.
AND cue the water works, everybody. * lights fade *
That's a wrap. Good work, everyone. Channing, we seriously love you.