There are tons of pieces of good advice out there when it comes to your love life.
That being said, there's also tons of pieces of bad advice.
The problem is, a lot of the bad advice is passed off as good advice that we hear from literally everyone all the time.
We hear these pieces of BS advice from people we love and trust, so we assume it's good and valid. But in reality, it sucks.
So naturally, we find ourselves taking that advice and wondering why it's not actually working and why we just feel horrible about ourselves instead.
Well, I've done you a favor and ranked the 10 WORST pieces of love advice from not horrible to the absolute worst. So next time someone uses one of these on you, you can just ignore their dumb "words of wisdom."
10. "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
OK, a lot of the times, this is true. That's why it's ranked at number 10.
But it still finds its place on the list because of the word "ALWAYS."
Like, what if he once cheated on his high school girlfriend who he didn't really like that much when he was 15 by kissing another girl under the bleachers, and the guilt tore away at him for the rest of his life? But then, he met you at 27 and was totally in love?
Do you REALLY think he'd cheat again just because of that one time? No, that's ridiculous.
9. "Just trust your gut."
No piece of advice has ever been more confusing to me than "just trust your gut."
As someone who literally overthinks every little thing, my gut twists and turns into MANY different directions. I mean, he could not respond to my text for a few hours, and my gut will tell me, "This is over."
But luckily, my brain will tell my gut to STFU because it's being impulsive and insane, and he's probably just working.
Maybe people who are more ~in tune~ with their guts can listen to them, but I don't have a very high-functioning gut, and I know there are other people out there like me.
8. "When you know, you know."
OR... it takes a little longer than that, and not everything in life is a simple, black-and-white, "aha!" moment.
I'm not going to lie, when I met my boyfriend, it was a little bit of an "I know" moment.
I just automatically felt comfortable with him. He made me laugh, and I felt the need to bring him up in random conversations for the following few days.
Did I instinctively know we were going to enter a long-term relationship and fall in love, though? No, I'm not a psychic.
7. "Love comes when you least expect it."
This is the legit worst advice to give anybody looking for love.
I remember receiving this stupid, horrible, dumb piece of advice when I was single and thinking, "OMG! THANK YOU SO MUCH. I'LL JUST STOP LOOKING FOR IT."
Love comes when love comes.
Think about how many people find love from actively going on dating apps or blind dates. People are putting themselves out there because they want to find love.
Sure, you could also just happen to meet someone when you're not looking, but that's not why you're meeting someone.
6. "All you have to do is put yourself out there."
I have so many questions here.
First of all, how do you "put yourself out there"?
Are you supposed to just start marching up to random dudes you find attractive left and right? Are you supposed to put an ad out on Craigslist? Are you supposed to go on dates with guys you wouldn't otherwise give a chance?
What does this "putting yourself out there" process entail? I'm dying to know.
Second, as anyone who has ever made the first move will tell you, simply putting yourself out there does not always pan out in your favor.
In fact, most of the time, it leaves you feeling exhausted and more discouraged than ever.
5. "We accept the love we think we deserve."
I HATE THIS ONE SO MUCH.
Why do I hate it so much? Well, anyone who's ever been in love can attest to the fact that love can make you insane. Love can make you put up with things you would have never put up with in a million years simply because you're in love.
Often times, that girl staying with her cheating boyfriend doesn't think she deserves to be cheated on. She stays with him because she loves him, and she can't quite let him go.
To insinuate that she's only staying with him because her self-esteem is so low, she thinks she deserves to be cheated on is so incredibly insulting and rude.
4. "He's only picking on you because he likes you."
There's a difference between a guy who playfully picks on you every once in a while as a way of flirting and a guy who's mean to you.
Simply put, the guy who is mean to you does NOT like you. No, he's just mean. And not a fan of yours. Move on.
3. "Nice guys finish last."
No, actually, being a genuinely nice guy will get you pretty far in the dating game.
My friends and I all have boyfriends, and you know what? I would describe all of our boyfriends as "nice."
The guys who finish last are the insecure guys who chalk up the fact that they don't get girls to their "niceness."
Also, I'd be willing to bet those same "nice" guys would absolutely be douchebags if given the opportunity.
2. "Everyone deserves a second chance."
No. Some people don't deserve a second chance.
If someone does something abusive, they don't deserve a second chance. It's that simple. They're done.
1. "Love will conquer all."
Sure, in an ideal world, love would conquer all.
But this is not an ideal world. This is real life. And guess what? Love is just not enough to conquer "all" in the real world.
If you guys live in two different countries, and you REALLY love each other, but neither of you is willing to move because he has his dream job and you have a sick mom you need to be with, I hate to break it to you, but your love just can't conquer that situation.
If you really love each other from the depths of your heart, but your family hated him with a burning, fiery passion — and your family means everything to you — I'm pretty sure your love would have a pretty hard time conquering that.
Those were obviously more extreme cases, but even on a smaller level, I STILL don't think love conquers all.
Real relationships take more than just love — they take work.