Was I Ghosted? 4 Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Worried You Were
A few months ago, I was dating this guy who seemed really into me... until things started going awry. First, he kept canceling plans. Then, I noticed he'd only text me once a week, unless I initiated the conversation. And finally, he stopped reaching out to me at all, except for liking my photos on Instagram, which he seemed to always have time for.
I had to ask myself, was I ghosted? Was he just busy? Was something else going on?
Sometimes, it's hard to tell if a guy is just busy with his life or busy trying to disappear from your life forever. So here are some questions to ask yourself if you're worried the person you're seeing ghosted you.
1. Were They Worth Your Time Anyway?
Is this person even worth stressing about in the first place? Do they really matter that much?
If you have to wonder this about your relationship and whether or not a guy even likes you, then you most likely know your answer anyway: He's not that into you.
If someone is into you, it should be obvious. If you're spending time on a guy whose affection and intentions are questionable, then it's already time for you to move on.
2. Do They Still Follow You On Social Media?
This one is tricky. If you've been unfollowed on all forms of social media — or even worse, blocked — then, girl, you've definitely been ghosted.
However, there is a dark underbelly of ghosting where a guy will completely disappear from your life, yet continue to actively follow you on social media. They'll like all your photos, watch your Instagram stories, and even comment on your Facebook statuses, but they have no intention of ever texting or asking you out again.
Now that is spooky.
3. Do You Reach Out More Than They Do?
If you're the one driving the relationship forward or initiating all the conversations, then it might be time to consider that you could potentially just be dating yourself.
If you stop contacting your crush, would there be no communication between the two of you? If so, then it's likely you're half way to the cemetery, mid-ghosting. It's best to stop texting that Tinder guy, and see what happens when you stop reaching out first.
4. Do They Bail On Plans?
If the person you're seeing is constantly bailing on plans, then it might be time to realize that they actually don't want to see you. I know, the truth hurts. But if someone wants to see you, they'll do it. And if someone wants to ghost you, they'll cancel plans and vanish from your life however they know how.
So if your guy is constantly making excuses not to hang out, then you're probably being ghosted.
When it comes to ghosting, trust your gut. If you feel like something is different or off between you two, then it probably is. But remember, if someone is willing to disappear from your life without warning, then they aren't worth your time anyway.
Rejection is just protection. You dodged a bullet, girl.
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