What It Means To Have A Sex Dream About A Co-Worker Who Reminds You Of Your Partner

This week we have Julia* who had a sex dream about her male co-worker while she was on a dry spell with her boyfriend:

As a bit of background information, I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and I have my future planned with him in it. However, in the last month or two, there hasn't been enough sex. We have it, like, two to three times a month when I need it at least once a week, preferably twice.

Anyway, last night I had a dream about one of my male co-workers who's about 10 years older than me. I'll admit that I've thought he was attractive once or twice. In many ways, he also reminds me of my boyfriend, in looks and personality. In the dream, we were like fuck buddies. My boyfriend knew about it and was chill, as long as there was no attachment.

The thing is, I would never actually cheat, and I just want my sex life with my boyfriend to pick up some more.

I would never actually cheat and I just want my sex life with my boyfriend to pick up some more.

Here's Lauri's interpretation:

When you cheat on your significant other in a dream, it rarely means you wish to do so in real life, so don't worry. Your inner tramp is not trying to break free!

When you cheat on your significant other in a dream, it rarely means you wish to do so in real life.

You do wish for more regularity, however, and that may be why you were hooking up regularly with your co-worker. You see him (who reminds you of your BF) on a regular basis. Your co-worker also seems to be a future/older version of your boyfriend, so this could be your subconscious expressing its desire to have more regular sex in the future. However, you are given a warning in your dream: Don't get attached to the co-worker. Even though your boyfriend in the dream gave you the warning, it was really coming from yourself.

Even though your boyfriend in the dream gave you the warning, it was really coming from yourself.

I believe the warning you are giving yourself is to not get attached to the idea or the hope that you will get more regular sex from your boyfriend in the future. In other words, if you focus on what you want, you will totally miss out on what you have.

FEWF.

I mean, it's always reassuring to know you're not some evil "tramp" who's secretly scheming to cheat on your boyfriend.

That being said, I do think it's worth mentioning her desire for more sex to her boyfriend, especially if it's a big issue for her internally.

Not only could it probably get the dreams to stop, but it would also probably make her happier all around!

* Names have been changed.