One of the only good parts of fighting with your partner is getting to kiss and make up at the end of it. Of course, only after you've worked through the issue that's creating distance between you can you come together again... sometimes literally. But why does make-up sex feel so good? Is it emotional, psychological, or is there actually a biological reason why sex after an argument just seems heightened, more passionate, and extra amazing?
As with all things related to sex, the answer to that question is complicated. It's basically all of the above, yet not true for everyone, as Lola Jean, sex educator and mental health professional, tells Elite Daily. "A lot of individuals think of great sex as passionate, wild, unbridled, full of emotion and intensity. Thank you, mainstream media," says Lola, who adds that it's more subjective than that. "It’s difficult to declare if make-up sex is better. We can look at reasons why make-up sex may be more enjoyable for some, but that also doesn’t mean we should be picking fights to make our sex lives more interesting or better because that does not make for healthy, trusting relationships," she warns. That's why knowing the reason make-up sex feels better for some people is so important. If you can reproduce the conditions for it without having to argue first, everyone wins. Here's what the experts say.