So, I haven't been on dating apps in a while, but the other day a friend was showing me a girl he matched with on Hinge... or maybe it was Tinder? Anyway, the point is, he hadn't even matched with her yet, and we could see EVERYTHING. It wasn't just her profile we could see, but also her entire Instagram profile! I was shocked. My friend isn't a weirdo, so he'd never even try to follow her unless they'd actually met IRL, but what if some other dude she swiped left on ended up Tindstagramming her? What is Tindstagramming, you ask? Well, it's the act of following someone on Instagram and sliding into their DMs even though you guys didn't match on whatever dating app you were on when you came across their profile.
New York Magazine defines it more concisely:
The act of sneaking into someone’s Instagram DMs after failing to match with them on Tinder.
As far as I'm concerned, Tindstagramming is excessively strange. If some weird dude I INTENTIONALLY swiped left on, or haven't even come across on Tinder entirely, could not take the hint and, instead, decided to go to my Instagram, follow me, and maybe like a few pictures here and there, that would already be weird enough as is. But it would be about 85 billion times weirder if he then proceeded to slide into my DMs.
Just because you swiped left on someone that doesn't mean they got the hint. Tindstagramming is when a person who didn't get a right swipe from you on Tinder finds you on Instagram and slides into your DMs (and not in a good way). Their message is usually something like, "I saw you on Tinder and am so bummed we didn't match. Anyway, want to get a drink?" No, you don't! And you didn't want to when you swiped left the first time either. If a person Tindstagrams you, they have zero boundaries and you should block them immediately.
Khloe is RIGHT. "No, you don't" want to go out with them. Just as you already didn't want to get the drink when you swiped left on this persistent douche, odds are you STILL have no desire at all to go on a date with this dude who just slid into your DMs out of nowhere.
Like Khloe said, Tindstagramming is totally grounds for immediate blocking, in my opinion. I mean, I'm all for a persistent dude, but "zero boundaries" isn't exactly what I'm looking for in a partner. And I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that's probably not what you're looking for either.
Still not fully clear on how painfully awkward, uncomfortable, and all-around douchey Tindstagramming is? Let me give you a little example:
He would have "pumped and dumped" anyway? ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME? IS THIS GUY FOR REAL? No, seriously, someone tell me. I've been out of the dating game for a while, and I'm genuinely having some trouble digesting the fact that guys this disturbing are still out there existing. Also, is "pumped and dumped" something people actually say?
So, anyway, the point here is that Tindstagramming is a very real thing that's happening, and even Khloe Kardashian agrees with me that it's unacceptable. Of course, don't let this deter you from using the app. Just maaaaaaaybe think twice before you connect your Insta with your dating app account.
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