As hard as it may be to admit, getting over someone you still love is no easy feat. Sometimes, it can take years. You may have agreed to go your separate ways, but even months after the breakup, you might find yourself comparing how new dates talk, dress, and kiss, to your ex. You're checking your ex's Instagram every few days (even if you don't follow each other anymore), or hoping your mutual friends bring them up in conversation just to get a glimpse of what their life without you looks like. In some cases where you still love your ex, you might still be acting like a couple even though you aren't anymore. "Nothing has really changed but the relationship status," Renelle Nelson, LMFT, certified sex therapist and infidelity recovery coach, tells Elite Daily. "You still give them money, rides, advice, and even sex."
If you're stuck in this post-breakup limbo, try not to beat yourself up. The pressure to move on and "bounce back" can be overwhelming, but it's not something you need to subscribe to. “The concept of being ‘over’ someone — what does that even mean?" James Guay, LMFT, tells Elite Daily. Instead, focus on whether or not you want to engage with your ex going forward, and what it will take to change how you think about them. Here are seven tips to remember from Nelson and Guay if you're looking to get over someone you still love.