I live with two friends and a dog, and in the last year, all four of us have been through breakups (Yes, including the dog). From long-distance stress and infidelity, to a spooky Instagram username found too little too late — each breakup brought on its own stress and pain, and always seemed to come at the wrong time. Although the nitty-gritty parts of a breakup tend to vary, being supportive when your roommate is going through a breakup can be a constant. You live together. You know each other's guilty-pleasure music and movies. So, even if you don't realize it, you probably have some deep insight into their healing process.
If you're not totally besties with your roomie or you've been feeling some roommate tension of your own, you may feel a little confused about the best way to show your support. Whether you and your roomie have never been close or you were super close before living together and now you need some serious space, living situations can be tricky. Still, being supportive throughout the entirety a breakup can be a great practice, regardless of your relationship.
Here are 14 texts to send your roomie if they're going through a breakup and need a little TLC.
Hey I made a huge stir-fry, it's on the stove if you want any. Please take some!
Finally got my sister's HBO Go account info, plugged it into the TV. Let me know if you want to marathon The Sopranos later.
Hi boo. Finally called the super about the drain. He said he'll come fix it tonight. I'm going to go look for cute shower curtains tomorrow if you want to come!
Hi hi. Don't worry about dishes or taking out the trash this week. I got you. Let me know if there's anything else I can do to help.
Headed to the store, let me know if I can grab you anything. Ice cream in on the list. Here for you!
You are strong and smart and beautiful and you will get through this.
Just heard what happened. You are a flawless angel. Here for you. Let me know if you want to talk later, I'm free all week.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do. You're amazing. Screw the haters.
Picking up wine and ice cream as we speak. Will give you a big hug when I get home.
Want you to know I'm here for you, and I'm happy to support you in whatever way feels good. Totally understand if you need some space and time. Here if you want to talk.
I'm not sure if you're in the mood for company, but I'd love to have movie night or make you dinner this week, Let me know what feels good. Here for you.
Hey, I want you to have some time and space this week, so I'm going to crash at Laura's for a couple nights. Please use my Lush bath bomb and drink anything that's in the cabinet. I think there's some ice cream in the freezer too.
Please feel free to have any of your friends over this week. If you want to have a slumber party or a potluck or something I'd love to cook for everyone.
Hey Hey. Take all the time and space you need. I so enjoy living with you, and I am here for you in whatever way feels comfortable. Happy to talk or about everything or never talk about it again. Literally whatever you want.
After a breakup, your roomie may have no idea what they need. Offering some suggestions, or just offering to be there in whatever way you can be, are great ways to offer support without rushing your roomie's healing process. Giving them space and reminding them how amazing they are can be important too. Of course, no matter how close you are, the best way to help your roomie after a breakup is just to be there for them. Home is where the heart is — but it's also where the heartbreak heals.
