Does it feel like political conversations are inescapable these days? Everywhere you turn, people are talking about the latest primary debate or news story coming out of Washington, D.C.. With an election looming in 2020, it's probably not going to get any better. These discussions are undoubtedly important, but sometimes they can also cause real fatigue. That can be especially true if they're happening in your own home with a partner who stands across the political aisle. If your partner’s political views bother you, that can definitely put a strain on the relationship, as Julie Spira, an online dating expert and author of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, tells Elite Daily.
"Before the 2016 election, bipartisan relationships were more common, as couples were concerned about their next vacation, or where they'd be hanging out after going to the movies," Spira explains. "Now, knowing what side of the aisle your partner is on isn't just about which party you support, but it's about having common values as it relates to immigration, healthcare, the environment, women's issues, gun safety, and more."
Spira says it's becoming increasingly common for people to avoid dating across the political spectrum altogether. She polled singles about their willingness to date someone with opposing political views, and the results were clear. "The majority, 68% said no, with 28% saying yes," says Spira. "I also polled singles to find out if they'd date someone who didn't vote [...] during the midterm elections. The results were alarming, with 87% saying they wouldn't date someone who didn't vote, and only 13% saying they would, showing that politics plays a crucial role in relationships."
But what if you're already in a bipartisan relationship and your differing world views are putting a strain on your connection? That's a much trickier question. Here's how Spira suggests addressing it.